Please Don't Leave

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6 months ago I found this board and found out what great advice and help I can get from everyone.

BUT now all the people with experience seem to be leaving or are thinking of leaving.

Pleae do not leave - or if you do, tell me where you are all going so I can follow.

Your advice have been invaluable. I went to a meeting today and stumped them with the questions that I have gleaned from here - and the strength I have gained from all of you.

Sorry can't post the questions in case any LA people lurking.

I second your feelings, I too have learned so much, I am also a relative newbie,

But also wanted to say do not despair we can still help eachother, I know people with experience are still here, and I think people will return.

I know for myself when I have found something that works, something that helps it feels like a disaster if it looks like being taken away... but we are all SN mumsnet, new, old in betweeners, and I am sure you have experiences and ideas for those who are even newer than you....

Just wanted to encourage people,to the oldies definitely please stay!! but also please value your own experiences and knowledge, we have something to learn from you too!

There have been a few very unthoughtful and rude posts from a few newbies in the last few days ( particularly on Peachies thread) and they have been upsetting. Absolutely the last thing we need in this haven.

But I'm still sure it'll all blow over and those without SN children will learn to not post here.

So, yes. Please. Everyone stay. Ignore the idiots like we always do - and continue to support and be supported by the rest.

This board is an extremely valuable resource. None of us can afford to lose it.....

well said indigo

I haven't had the pleasure of reading any horrid posts on this site and hope I don't. I have however read plenty on other sites not particularly related to SEN.
What I don't understand though is why anyone who doesn't have SEN kids or works with them would want to poke their noses in here to be horrible anyway!
It is a shame when people feel they have to leave because of it- I've left a site myself for the same reasons- but all I can think is that those who do post nasty comments with no knowledge of what we all go through each day must have a very sad life and really ought to get out more!

the thing is, if this is causing people stress in their RL it might be best to take a break. There has been alot going on under the surface of the SN board and sadly this has resulted in some very upset ladies :(
I know I dont want anyone to leave but understand why they might want to. Hopefully they will take a break, come back refreshed and wont stay away too long.
I know Im going to miss the help and advice they bring but I have no doubt most will lurk for a while if we are despreate they will come to our aid (like superwoman)

I too hope no-one leaves, but I do understand why they might want to after the last week or two. Whatever happens we can still support each other and give much needed advice or simply hugs when needed.

All of us genuine sn mums have so much to offer each other in terms of support that it would be a shame to stop doing so. I know i had lots of support whilst going through my ds's diagnosis time, and hope I will have advice that may help others.

As a relative newbie, who has posted a little and read and learnt loads, I would also like to thank all the people who are currently taking a break. Although I haven't read any of the nasty posts I can understand why people would want to leave, I just want you all to know how much I have appreciated you all.
Thanks!

Peachy thread was not originally in sn, so newbies wihtout experience meant well, even if comments were not always appropriate.

Aaaaah... That explains it. Any newbies lurking - always post SN stuff in SN.

I'm pretty much a newbie and have only been here a little while.

I've been thrown headfirst into the special needs world with an 11 year old recently dx'd with AS. Being thrown into this at secondary school level is really hard and I have really learnt some useful things from the experienced members of this forum.

I understand if people want a break. But I really hope people will come back soon. Those who are going seem to be ones who make it worth coming on here! Really knowledgeab le, kind, helpful people.

What Indigo says is right!

Was just about to post this on another thread but this one is perfect.

Just catching up with all this. I don't post here very often but lurk a lot and just want to say that I think everyone on here is great! I'm really not liking all this shit going on at the moment but I don't think it'll last for long and we've just got to ride it out IYSWIM. Emotions are running very high and add that with a lot of new posters and also a few trouble-makers and its bound to be tough for a while. I really hope that those planning to leave will either reconsider or at least come back when it all dies down.

Apologies if this has already been said but IMO it can't be said enough!!