DS1 (8) was assessed for AS last year. At the first part of the history questionnaire I was told that the questionnaire and a school visit were all that was needed in 'obvious' cases of AS. At the last part of the questionnaire (after the school visit) the lady said that they had observed lots of the behaviour I described in the questionnaire and that given DSs very obvious anxiety levels they wouldn't need to see him again before letting me know their results. I was meant to hear these results last term but they were postponed due to snow. So I hear them early next week instead. I am fairly certain given the above comments that DS will be given a diagnosis and as prepared as I can be for that, although still part of me hoping that they will say is a parenting issue.
However, during the questionnaire DS2 came up - he would have drastically failed the CHAT test at age 2 but slipped through the net as we moved areas and never had any development checks. So they said during DS1s questionnaire that they would like to keep a close eye on DS2 if DS1 got an AS dx. So I have a sneaky suspicion that DS2 is going to get raised at DS1s dx meeting and would like to be prepared. Now DS1 fits the AS dx like a glove, but DS2 doesn't. I know he wouldn't get an AS dx as he had very delayed speech, but presume as he now talks if he has anything it would be HFA. But there are some things that he does that I have no idea if they fit an ASD dx, and don't want to go down trying to get him dx-ed for the sake of it, if he is actually NT. He has loads of SPD issues, he loves routine - his rigidity was remarked on at his nursery (pre-school) parents evening (but then he is brought up in a fairly routined household due to it helping DS1). But, he is very clingy - not in the same way DS1 was. DS1 used to be put to bed, he wouldn't sleep but would happily stay in his room organising his books, teddies whatever. DS2 however wants me to be sat in his room, to promise I will sleep on his floor etc. He doesn't want to go to playgroup as he wants to be with me. When he comes out of nursery I get a big shout of 'Mummy' and he flies over to me. (DS1 would have been throwing a tantrum about changing from school to home environment, having tantrummed about going in in the first place).
Also, DS2 is very popular. Everybody in class wants to sit by him, be his friend etc. he is quite happy playing with other children, although he is also quite happy by himself too. He doesn't seem to recognise children well - the other day he was shouting at another child (their name) in a cafe as he was sure it was his friend from nursery. They looked barely similar other than the hair. He does push his trains, cars etc around track/road but having seen DS3 play - where all the cars/horses etc talk to each other and make up stories, DS2 doesn't go that far. (DS1 however just made the track).
Basically I guess what I am asking are any of the above ASD type traits, as I don't want to look completely stupid next week saying he can't have ASD because... when actually they are traits.