Please can I run my first ever IEP apst someone on here?

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We saw DS1 teacher last night. He was very kind and spent 3/4 hr with us showing us the IEP and discussing other concerns I had. DS is bright but doesn`t write. The devepopmental peadiatrician says he has dyspraxic and dyslexic tendencies and low self esteem. Here is the IEP (in summary)...

1 Identify positive outcome in his school work each day.

How - chat to teacher who will praise good work. Display disproportionate amout of DS work and call on DS to share good ideas/work with rest of class.

2. Achieve a set recording task in most lessons according to teacher expectations.
   How - Agree amount with ds. Increase use of Clicker 4 on P.C. Increase cloze prosedure work to reduce writing. Use english book with margins to make it appear ds has written more.

3. Write 5, and 6 correctly. How - Practice in various mediums.

The teacher said we will review this at Christmas. What should I think of that? I think Im happy but dont know alot.

As well as this we discussed his seating position. DS isnt sitting with kids that he use to as the teacher felt they produced so much work it made DS feel bad. Hes moved him down a group. Not sure how I feel about that, what would you think?

Obviously the title of the thread should read "PAST someone" not apst - sorry.

Not sure you should think of him being moved down a group. ds compaares his volume of work (or lack of) to his neighbours and this has damaged his self confidence so imho it would be better for him to sit with those whose work is closer to his level.

The IEP seems pretty good to me. Each target is concentrating on a different area of difficulty and it looks as though your ds is also having some say in it too, eg deciding with teacher about how much work to do.

I don't have experience of dyspraxia or dyslexia though so have no idea if there is anything

more specific that they could be doing.

I think that moving groups is something that is going to require careful handling. The idea is obviously to boost your ds' self-esteem when he sees how much work others are doing. At the same time they will need to be careful that being moved doesn't have an adverse effect on his self-confidence. How does your ds feel about the move? He may be secretly relieved that he doesn't have to live up to the same high expectations of the group anymore.

i think its pretty good, my elder ds was both and moving down a group did help his confidence. He was struggling before and felt stupid, in the lower group he was more capable than some and became quite competitive. He had extra time to do his work and complete homework. Had extra english lessons too. HTH

The teacher made the group move at the start of this term so I think DS has accepted it. I think he is a little relieved that he doesnt have to keep up too. You are right LIZS, I shouldnt see it a downward move - my feelings leaking out I`m afraid when infact DS is the important one.

I`m glad the IEP passes muster with the MNetters, a wise and knowledgable filter!

I think it sounds really good. My ds is very bright and also has dyspraxia. I hope his school is as proactive.

There are also special pens that you can buy (triangular shape) that some dyspraxic children find easier to use. Also it can help to provide a writing slope. My ds (4) lOVES using letter and number stencils. It has given him a great deal of satisfaction to actually produce legible letters and numbers by himself this way and that is good for his self-esteem.

Good point christie. Parents rarely get in the room at our school so probably not an issue but I`ll have to hope the teacher is sensitive to the posibility of classmate resentment.

Im collecting DS at 1.30 today because school ends early on the last day of term. Need a fast answer to this if possible. Im wondering if I should have a word with his teacher about how a part of the IEP is going.

DS reports that some of the things on it are not happeneng eg The teacher and him aren`t identifying a positive outcome in DS work each school day.

Ds wants to do this as he was promised stickers as rewards. He cant really get stickers any other way as they are given for neat writing, getting changed first at PE and spelling tests etc.

Is it too pushy ?

no, not too pushy imo...
ask about it, teacher has 20-30 ch/n and might just not realise that this is consistently not being done....it's a gentle reminder

Doesn't sound pushy to me either. If the IEP is going to work then they need to be actually following it.

Thanks Chatee, got to leave for school in 15 mins so I apprieciate the feedback.

Not pushy at all! There is no point in doing the IEP if it isn't being implemented.

Oh, and thanks coppertop - posts crossed.

and also thanks aloah. Yes I agree he has to do it but my hubby is always saying that you "catch more flies with honey by this he means that I somtimes go in a bit hard. Perhaps if I nudge him on this one he`ll remember for next half term. If he doesnt than I can be a little harder next time.

and also thanks aloah. Yes I agree he has to do it but my hubby is always saying that you "catch more flies with honey" by this he means that I somtimes go in a bit hard. Perhaps if I nudge him on this one he`ll remember for next half term. If he doesnt than I can be a little harder next time.

Agree no need to be aggressive, but do be direct. Your ds is wonderfully keen to cooperate right now. I would suggest taht if you don't seize the moment he might not be so keen in the future. Just say 'How is the IEP going? I know ds is really excited about the daily stickers for positive achievement' (or whatever).

Yes, Oh for the days when a sticker was the answer to our dreams!

My ds1 will do almost anything for a sticker. Long may it last!

Can you give him a few stickers over half term and then ask for it to be continued when school goes back?

Ds met me as I walked into school, he was beaming and holding a certificate for excellent homework all this half term. I thanked his teacher and said how this sort of thing really helps and was he finding the same with his IEP. He admitted that he wasnt yet doing everything on the IEP.

I`ll just have to see how things go next half term. The formal review is due in December.

I had a look at a poem DS had written while I was speaking to the teacher. The teacher was pleased as he said DS looked happy with what he was doing and normally looked so sad during literacy work. The poem was a shape poem so DS had written about a rabbit and drawn a rabbit around the writting. By agreement with the teacher, I had written down all the words he thought he may like to use such as hides, holes, scattered etc. I was shocked by how unreadable the final poem was and how many copying errors were on the paper from my word list.To make things worse Ds had coloured in the rabbit black, thus making it very difficult to read what few words were visible.

I`m pleased he enjoyed the literacy lesson but really really sad at the mountain that lies ahead of my son as he struggles to get his thoughts and ideas on paper in a form that will allow the system to give him credit for his abilities.