I agree totally on the need for respite for disabled children, but I don't agree using our children and holding them up to ransom. Would riven really put her child in care?
As the bereaved mum of harry (10.8.98-17.12.10) and mum to Tom(17..9.94-10.12.04) we had 2 severely disabled poorly boys and although we didn't ask for disabled poorly children, that's what we had. We loved our boys so much and we chose to have children. They were our responsibility and if we got help we were grateful, but it's not our right.
Sorry if this is unsympathetic.