Anyone elses autistic child go crazy when someone comes to visit?

[Kesha321]

Just wondered if I'm alone on this one? My son aged 4 goes completly mental when someone new comes round to the house,today we had a family support worker come round and he started beating up his dad and me,then throwing everything around,he reacts like this when anyone comes round,anyone elses lo act like this? Or do you know why he does,I do try my best to pre warn him someone is coming around!

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My DD is older and verbal now, but have you thought to try and explain

'What happens when someone comes to visit.'

in some sort of story format?
eg -
doorbell goes, who could it be?
open door, say hello, would you like to come in?
visitor comes in..
etc..

Perhaps your DS could have a task for his routine, eg fetch visitor a biscuit!!? PECs/ photos/pics/words?
..and on so...

Especially important to us is to remind DD that the visitor WILL be leaving again!!

Any change to the environment can be sensory overload, esp at home when it's their sanctuary...

Hope this helps x

Omg that is probably the best info I've had,that is a really good idea,think I might sit and make a story/rhyme about visitors,we haven't been taught pecs or makaton yet,when we go back in April I'm hoping they will give us more advice on developing his language skills.

But his really got to stop doing this to the guest,personally I'd rather not have them here anyway lol my little man has gotta learn what is/isn't sociabley acceptable...=\

hi autumnsmum here my boy is the same we had family round Boxing day and he had a total meltdown no advice really just total sympathy

My NT son goes crazy too!
For my DD (ASD) we have a house with names of people...and pictures soon.. to put 'in' the house to say who will be there...strangers are represented by ???.

The "Social Stories" book by Carol Gray is good for things like this, like AlysWho described. DS2 is not keen on visitors but is getting better. I always tell him that if there's anything he doesn't want people to touch (favourite toys etc) to put it somewhere safe in his room. Good point to explain that they WILL be leaving again (although that can backfire - my sister used to get people's coats when she'd had enough and say "I think it's time you were going!"

Forgot to say, you can get Social Stories on Amazon, perfect for 2-6 year olds

This has bought back memories, my DS (Classic autistic) used to give visitors their coats as soon as they took them off going hysterical, we live in avery busy house with families close by ... he eventually got used to it... good job really he is now well over 6ft tall and built like a heavyweight boxer.

Yes

ds1 aged 11 has a huge meltdown during or after

i wouldn't be winding yourself up too much about what he does and doesn't know is socially acceptable - socially acceptable behavior can be a mystery into adulthood for some people with Autism.

I'd focus on containing the violence, and letting him get away to his bedroom when he cannot bear to have strangers in his house.