Wish me luck for tomorrow

[DayShiftDoris]

Ok it's here!

Tomorrow is the CAF meeting... all agencies have responded and are coming as far as I know.

I am going alone but the head is on my side.

Fingers crossed!

Any advice from the experienced greatly recieved!

What's it for?
Def take questions written and remember is meant to be your families TAC and you don't have to have anything written on plans you don't want.
If you don't trust your professionals you can be the lead professional if you want

Best wishes winging their way to you.
My only advice is that if anyone says/promises to do something, get a timeline from them. Who is going to do it, where and when by. Take notes of this so that you can start chasing if its not done/isn't achieved.

Good luck, hope it goes well!

Well

All very positive... the first step on a long journey.

Lots of input to school...

Assessments for autism, some counselling or atleast some written info on counselling.

Home

Well home we continue though he won't be bringing reading books home anymore.

Structure, routine, more structure, more routine.

In the 'future' it is thought that he will need to be given strategies to cope with times I am not there... so I get a bit of 'me time'.

I am going to be really, really selfish...

They don't understand. I work part time. In term time I have the school day to swim, run, walk, gym, whatever.
The reality is that I am unlikely to have a relationship or more children because I have a child that requires a 25 min explanation not to have a bath on a Sun because he's had one on a Sat....

I wanted to come away with a glimmer of hope and instead I have utter dispair.

Someone has said to me today that i am disappearing - I am just a mummy with a part time job.

I would never ever exchange being his mummy for the opportunity to have more for me but I feel like I am grieving a loss.

Yet I am luckier than most because things are starting to move and happen

Good luck

Dayshift - i so get where you're coming from. Today i could have stood at my door and wept. I was going to write a woe is me thread, but then i thought of Riven, and her life.
I quite often don't feel i have much of a life. DH is away from home on a work trip. Its been several days since i've had contact. I have 3 DS, don't work, have no social life apart from the odd daytime coffee.
I joined the school PTA in part to improve my social circle. A meeting was tonight, babysitter failed to turn up on time, 37 minutes late (not his fault - transport). I was stood at the door with pizza i had ordered for him, waiting, thinking there is only me to look after my children. No-one else takes any responsibility for them. And worst of all i was upset that the first time since october that i had tried to get out of the house after dark on my own was noused up - and it was only to the school 5 mins away for an hour or so meeting. How tragic is that. How tragic have i become.
I love my kids dearly, but i do find myself thinking how the hell can i get off this treadmill.

I know Auntevil... I know

And yeah Riven is in my thoughts today. I don't know how she has survived this far with what she does with no respite.

I feel guilty for even thinking like this - I have no social life but I have a happier child for it and with support he might be very happy AND survive school.