MAJOR meltdowns - calmness then chaos, what happened today.....

[dispondantandthensome]

How do you guys cope with the daily grind of it all? today my ds was ok (ish) this am, then at school when asked to do work went radio rental. He came home raging and mad at himself too. He is 7, and a defiant but loveable little bugger.

Also my son is sensing my disappointment when he behaves badly and I dont want that but I can hardly act chuffed. sigh.

we have a calm home I try soooo hard, he has a nice life which revolves about him loads yet he seems incapable of being compliant to even small things sometimes

whats the deal :(

Tracking what is helping and what is winding up DS2 (13) each day if possible.

Learning to recognise when he is getting behind the demands put on him and when he is gaining on them.

Feeling I can see and understand in what areas he is developing. I love seeing him grow up.

Being pleased when he is compliant rather than cross when he isn't. That helps a lot!

When I can't see or track what is going on I feel lost and that the whole situation is out of control. Then I feel as if I am to blame for his development, for others not understanding, and for making bad decisions.

I went in to see DS's[16] head teacher yesterday over 3 major meltdowns that became quite violent last week, they've never seen any major problems with him.

She reckons that as he's one of the ones who holds it together really well at school he cant manage when he comes home, especially when he's asked to do something or told something different is happening he's fine as long as everything is on his terms.