coping with change

[borderslass]

Just wondering how others DC's coped with major changes in their routine.

Had a few major problems with DS[16] phoned SW and she came straight out went through everything thats happened in the last week and she reckons it could be to do with him leaving school in 6 months and him not being able to express himself about how he felt.

While she was here I finally admitted that things weren't ok most of the time and shes going to see about getting funding together so that we can get regular weekend respite not getting my hopes up to high but fingers crossed.

We don't cope..We just do our best... Which doesn't ever seem to be enough.

Big changes end up in violence basically... No matter how much we prepare and use strategies.

The transition time between primary and secondary was awful... Luckily CAMHs really helped us out.

But even small changes ( ds1 wasn't going to their dads with ds2 as normal for a dad weekend).. And that ended up in total meltdown the night before!

I know that doesn't help.. But your not alone. ( hug)

We can't really change anything here without lots of discussion before hand.

We sometimes change the day that we go to school in the car instead of walking and that always causes a nightmare.

Every year the transition between classes is horrendous and I can't even begin to think about secondary.

Dd3 is still quite little [8] and more mouthy than physical but already I can't move her if she doesn't want to move.

Hope you get some respite you deserve a break.