ds1 was tested for fragile x and 'the other major genetic problems' (sorry - don't have any details of what they were) when he was 15mths with GDD and I was preg with ds2. All came back clear after an agonising wait.
Then he got dx ASD at 2.5yrs and we were offered more precise genetic testing. I think this was because of his GDD prior to the dx so he didn't fit the typical profile. And also because I kept pushing for what else could be tested for.
The test was called CGH Array, I have the impression its fairly new...
Anyway, he tested positive for a chromosomal imbalance which is rare and without name or prognosis.
Then me and dh got tested and it turns out i carry it in benign form but our other kids could have or carry it and my wider family could also carry it.
We were still reeling from ASD dx when we got all this news and it was gutting, but on balance i am glad we found out because it could impact my wider family e.g. helping cousins who are ttc and miscarrying a lot. The rare chromo charity Unique have been really good and to me any scrap of information that I can glean to help understand the pieces of his puzzle might one day be useful, although I can totally understand those who prefer not to test - for one thing the blood taking alone is hideously stressful for ds1.
Sorry for rambling on, hth