13 year old DS with ASD, Help with annual review and behaviour please

[mary21]

Hi
I have a 13 year old with Aspergers whose behaviour at school has deteriorated since hitting puberty. (At primary was Mr Perfect) He says he is being bullied. The perputrator says DS is the one doing the bullying. He is having lots of out bursts in class. He cannot take any critism at presant.The staff are treating him as any difficult 13 year old, putting him on report etc. He seems to be becoming the class bad boy. Head of KS3 admitted other students would do things to wind him up to get him into trouble. I think he needs stategies in place to help deal with what ever is going on, but not sure what to suggest. . Problems usually start out of sight of staff. We have his annual review in a couple of weeks and would like some suggestions to bring to the table.
My reaction is the school isnt the right place for him. DP thinks it is and he would be worse in mainstream. He is at a SN school with very small class sizes rather than LSA support. BTW he says he loves school. Sorry if that all sounds muddled
TIA

Other students winding him up to make him react is bullying and should be treated by the school as bullying.

sorry that was a bit brief - I mean that yep you need strategies for him not be having outbursts, but that the other pupils should also be being dealt with

I know that if my son decides that a certain teacher isn't dealing with other pupil's behaviour towards him that that's when he tends to act out more

Thanks

Trouble is, he seems to have got in a neditive spiral. He reponds very well to praise and positivity. At the moment all he is getting is negatives. i agree about the bullying. the school dont seem to be seeing far beyond the outbursts

Hi,
Adolescence is always really hard for any child but when add ASD into the mix its even harder. You basically have a child with the biology of a teenager ie the hormones etc and the wants and needs of a teenager ie. friends/sexuality etc but a child lacking the social understanding and emotional development to equip him to manage these changes. From my experience children with ASD can be quite black and white in their thinking and can struggle to see other peoples points of view, hence the problems with other kids at school. I often use comic strip stories to help them to understand specific situations that they maybe struggling with. This literally means creating a story together using pictures and some words, to help them to learn and understand specific difficulties and how to manage them. They almost have to route learn social skills.
Children with ASD can also often struggle with managing their feelings. Anything you can do to increase his emotional literacy would be helpful. At the same time help him to express how he's feeling in more appropriate ways, using flashcards, drawings, numbers etc. Put in place clear rules and boundaries concerning not appropriate behavior, its important that he knows where he stands.
I could go on..... This feels a bit brief, sorry. I'll have a think about some books that might be helpful??
Have your considered a referral to CAMHS. They have a duty to help any child who is experiencing emotional distress, particularly if its interfering with schooling.
hope that helps??
x

Hi Cg267

Thanks. I have thought about CAMHS. Might be useful and help school to take things more seriously. He might like the comic stip idea
Thanks again