A moving schools question, help needed.

[Ineedalife]

OK,where to start?
I don't believe that Dd3's school are meeting her needs at the moment but she doesn't have a dx. We have been in the assessment process for nearly 2 years now, during this time everytime a professional has requested information from the school they have been told there are no issues and school dont' see any of Dd3's difficulties.

None of the SALT recomendations have been put into place.

I am pretty certain that not much will change even if Dd3 does get a Dx of whatever.

However she took a really long time to settle and doesn't generally refuse to go. She does get stressed and is often negative about school.
She does have 2 friends who she also sees sometimes out of school.
She is used to the routines and rules at this school.

I have a really bad communication problem with the HT/SENCO and can't see a way to improve it at the moment.

Would I be really stupid to move Dd3 to another school based on the above?

Someone help me please, I am getting desperate!!

I don't think you are stupid to consider moving to another school. I am going through the same debate with myself at the moment. I think the first step is to go and see some other schools, talk to their head teachers, discuss all the issues and see how they respond. The right school for your dd will be able to reassure you as to how they would support your dd, follow the SALT recommendations, and how they would help her adjust to new routines and rules and make more friends.

No you would not be stupid to move her. I am currently doing exactly the same thing, as my son has became really depressed at the school he is at.

I have literally had to drag him in today as he wouldnt go. We are just waiting of confirmation of his place at his new school, and as of tommorrow he won't be going back to his current school.

His school won't even believe in his dx of ASD and don't give him any support at all.

I moved my DS in the January term of year 1. For me and him, it was an excellent move.
I would say that there are many factors to consider when moving schools, such as what year they're in. How they will deal with separating from friends etc.
The academic factors are in a way simpler. I found that however nice the SENco and school seemed, they were failing my DS and that would be unlikely to change. I viewed other schools and spoke to Heads and SENcos. I found out what they were willing to do for my DS.
The friends issue i was more worried about. My answer came when he had a birthday in November and i asked him who he wanted to invite. The first 3 names were not even children he was at school with. That satisfied me that he didn't rely on school solely for friends. It was then a no brainer.
The moving part is simple in this LEA. I told new school i wanted him to go there, they said they had a place - did i want him to start on Monday! The schools do the paperwork between them for the transfer. You just have to do the usual paperwork that you did when you started school - health forms, permissions etc.
What i did find was that the new school wanted to assess what levels DS was up to and within a couple of weeks he had seen OT, SALT and EP.
Its worth having a think about it all.

We are in the process of moving schools too, similar story, lack of action/enthusiasm, no SALT recommendations acted on, reluctant to give extra support...you get the idea.

It is tough to decide, for us it means moving house too so big upheaval, but after the settling period...will the school be better overall? Visit other schools, see what your missing, what you could have. We visited one on Tuesday and immediatley applied to transfer....it was that much better. We wouldnt have a battle to use visual aids as they use them already...for NT kids too. They teach about emotions, inclusion, have music classes, lots of TAs and lunchtime assistants who are aware of needs, quiet places, small group work, a new IT suite, a new library, secure entry...and a SN unit.

If your DD sees her friends out of school she can continue to do that? Id say it was better to remove the stress if she hates the school...even if it means you have to deal with changes, when she settles she may be happier.

Thanx everyone so far, you all seem to be saying the same.

There are a couple of local schools which I could go and visit so I guess this has to be my next move.

Part of me feels why should I move her? It is the school my other 2 went to and its the one we chose for her for all the right reasons.

I wanted to give them the opportunity to meet her needs, which I have to say are not that massive. But it seems that they do not even want to acknowledge that she has difficulties.

Good luck with your fact finding, I hope you find a good school with places available - it makes it so much easier.