Have you ever REALLY flipped at somebody, gawking, staring, laughing, taking the piss etc ??

[ApocalypseCheeseToastie]

Dp did today, I felt a mixture of and

dd often will march up to strangers pointing and giggling at her brother andtell them how rude they are and did they leave their manners behind when they came out this morning while im trying to work out whats up with ds

.Dd is 7 and very small but loves her brother, she has also been known to mutter about disabled access being pants and then when asked by shop keepers what did she say she will then speak up and show them.

future in disablity fields me thinks

Yes I have flipped big-time, in fact I spent about 20 mins once shouting at a woman that she ought to educate herself, and that statistically her small girl was more likely to hurt my boy than vice versa. Mind you, nowadays I do try not to get into confrontations (esp. not with psycho-looking men) but I have perfected the "death stare". If someone is gawping at DS, as a woman was this morning in Costa Coffee, I give them a very polite but very unwavering gaze back, as if to say "you appear to be staring at my son, is there something you would like to say to him or me?". 9 times out of 10 I find that they put their eyes down before I do. I suppose it's a version of "staring someone out" that I must remember from my playground days. Oh well, it makes me feel better anyway, and DS doesn't even notice such people, one of the blessings of autism.

I am a master of the ENORMOUSLY loud parenting voice.

"DON'T WORRY ABOUT THAT LADY, DS1, MAYBE SHE DIDN'T HAVE ANYONE TO TEACH HER HOW TO BEHAVE IN PUBLIC. EVEN YOUR LITTLE BROTHER KNOWS IT'S RUDE TO STARE, AND HE'S FOUR, BUT MAYBE NOBODY TAUGHT HER AND THAT'S WHY SHE'S STILL STARING. LET'S BE POLITE AND PRETEND WE HAVEN'T NOTICED."

Dp ended up swearing, VERY loudly.

The bare bones of it is ds flipped when the train we were on resulting in handfuls of my hair on the floor, chunks of my skin under his nails and many a bite mark.

Parently the whole time this 'couple' in their twenties were sniggering and repeated what was being said

Dp blew his top, screamed in the guys face, WHAT IS SO FUCKING FUNNY, ARE YOU STUPID ?? YOU OBVIOUSLY FUCKING ARE IF YOU FIND A DISTRESSED CHILD SO FUNNY.And offered him a slap (the dcs werent there, i'd carted them into the toilet to mop up blood and calm ds)

The bitch woman who'd been perfectly happy giggling at my distress moments earlier, burst into tears and they left.

Part of me is FURIOUS at dp for reacting in this way but the devil on my shoulder is saying 'meh, it's been 8 years coming'

I haven't really flipped because I will cry if I lose my temper but I have raised my voice and swore on occasion.
Once that springs to mind was in M&S. Ds finds shops traumatic so I was on edge but so proud that he was coping even if he was stimming frantically.I noticed this woman staring so glared at her but then she tapped her friend on the shoulder and pointed at ds.
That was it, I shouted "this is autism and your excuse is fucking ignorance I presume"
She dropped her basket and ran which riled me even more so I shouted "You had better run and hide because I'll have you when I have finished here" even though I am the most meek and mild person on this earth normally
Another funny occasion was when dd was on the cusp of a meltdown but I was containing it and talking her down when this old couple came over and told her naughty girls wouldn't get toys from Santa.
That was it even though she had no understanding of what they had said just being spoken to by strangers tipped her over.
I snarled "this isn't naughty, this is autism made worse by bloody idiots like you" At that moment the echolalia kicked in and the screams were replaced by "BLOODY IDIOTS LIKE YOU!" as they tried to get away as quickly as possible.

Hi, I have a 14 year old dd with severe autism and we've often had the rude stares, comments and judgements when we've been out. My favourite is to stare at the person who is staring at her, then their eyes flicker up to meet mine and they scuttle away, embarrassed at being caught. She's had a buggy until recently, so it was more than obvious that she has a disability, even though she doesn't appear to at first glance, like most people with ASDs.

I used to get really angry when trying to get on buses with her, because, even if the bus was accessible, people would fill the space with baby buggies and shopping trolleys, then refuse to move, and the drivers wouldn't do anything to make them move. I ended up learning to drive in the end, I couldn't take any more stress and getting upset just because I needed to go out.

How's your DP about it?

I wish I could flip, I usually cry.

Once. Only once. DD was flapping at a music event and a woman said to me 'has he had too many e-numbers or something'.

I sprayed her with my mouthful of beer and didn't appologise!

Apocolypse - Don't be embarressed be PROUD of your dp.
I think maybe they needed a verbal slap if not a real one

Tbh the main reason I was annoyed is because I half expected the transport police to board the train

I've never seen him so angry, could hear him bellowing through the loo door

Not flipped, exactly. But only yesterday, we were in a bus and DS2 was being very loud, but basically well behaved. Two ladies made no attempt to hide their disapproval e.g. tutting, shaking their heads, etc. I turned around and said simply, "He has Autism". The nice elderly lady across from me said (loud enough for them to hear ), "don't worry love, some people just don't understand", and proceeded to tell me her similar-but-different experiences with her husband with Alzheimer's. I hope I see her again sometime .

chocolate, what a lovely lady. We all need people like her around to do our arguing for us.

I have only once let rip with a 'stop fucking staring' comment at a yummy mummy who was doing the most outrageous, prolonged staring, mouth agape. The rest of the time, I do the staring back technique. Not in an aggressive way, just a persistent 'I know exactly what you are doing' sort of way. It works very well and avoids the discomfort of verbal confrontation.

DS looks disabled so I don't get judged quite as much as ASC mums and dads

Bravo! Huge round of applause and standing ovation for Apocalypse's DP.

I tend to just mutter under my breath, although loud enough for the dude I work with to hear - which sets him off into peals of laughter, apparently out of the blue

It's just occured to me, imagine if i'd posted this in AIBU ??

Cries of leave him, why can't you control your son ? How can you expect people to understand ? would have surely followed

Bloody love the sn section ! And Starlight you should have poured the rest of the pint over the twats head