can we forget Xmas now and get on with normal life yet?

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Please? Im bored :) where are you all?

Probably getting stuck into the mulled wine.

How are your lot coping with christmas?

Mine are fighting from the moment they wake up until the moment they sleep.

so no change there then.

they are doing ok and loving the fact they have got to go sledging twice this weekend with DH :)
DD1 really struggled at my mums yesterday with too many people, too much noise and very tired. DD2 was her normal handful
today has been better. Bowling tomorrow morning and ice skating on tuesday :)

I'm here.. Ds's have now gone to their dads to have Xmas there... And eventually the flu has left my body.. I'm having a blast now :)

I'm sick of Christmas. DS 'dad' put the dampners on it on 23rd with a load of nasty texts. I have taken him to court in the past over them but he still continues. Can't be bothered to report him as last time I did not a lot happened (despite his previous) because I stupidly took him back after believing his lies that he'd changed.
DS has been even more hyper than normal and not sleeping until about 10pm for a few nights now.
Christmas day I just about got through for his sake.
Today was worse. Went to my parents for lunch which was later than expected and not served til 4 ish. DS wild by then. Wouldnt sit down, wanted to hold his dummy which my mother insisted taking off him- resulting in sobbing DS. The he had a notebook from a cracker. It was wrapped in cellophane and hee insisted on holding it and was begging me to open it. My mum reached over to snatch take it off him. She accidently scratched me hard and I said 'ow' to which she exploded and I ended up in tears. She told me to go. So got myself and DS ready and walked home in tears.
Too top it off just had to take DS out of bed and re bath him as he decided to smear the contents of his nappy all over himself.
I am in desperate need of a break but noone to have DS. Got a splitting headache and the house is a tip. Don't know where to put all his Christmas presents. Also DS dad never even sent a text or call to see if DS had a nice Christmas. Bastard.
Also haven't managed to take DD'S flowers to her grave yet so feel guilty over that.

Tomorrow we have been invited to a friend with 2NT childrens house for the kids to exchange presents. Am dreading it as know he'll play up running around house touching things he can't, going upstairs and pushing over friend's son.

Have just looked at Butlins prices for next Christmas. Might scrimp and save and take him there as he loves it and would solve a lot of problems.

Christmas Bah Humbug here.

Hope you've all had happier ones. Sorry for moan but you are the only people who understand ASD life.

Im lucky in some sense, we dont do xmas here.
Im sorry you had such a horrible time, and im on FB if you need a moan in real time.
Your ex sounds terrible and your mother clearly doesnt understand and cant belive she told you to leave.
I didnt know you had lost your DD and im sorry for your lost, it cant be easy.

You are more than welcome at our mad, non xmas house anytime :)

thanks,I lost DD June 2004.
it's good to talk to people who understand. most of my family can't/won't accept ds has asd. they kept telling me it was my parenting to blame. It has been nursery and pre school and the medical professionals that have put my mind at ease.
Really had enough this year. Am going to ask a doctor for anti depressants soon. I hope they help as feel so low. Honestly wish I could go to sleep and not wake up. I have no choice though as noone to have DS and I doubt foster care would help an asd child. Just feel so low and alone. Ended up taking DS 'father' back a few times as seriously can't imagine i'll meet anyone else now. DS is so demanding and I'm broke, tired and lacking in babysitters.

Sorry to moan so much I know there are people who have it harder.

tiredmummy I hope you get a break soon. Sounds shit and not fair. I'll join you in raising a glass to the back of Christmas - 'tis the season to be jolly fucked off with being a special needs mum if you ask me. Bah humbug

tiredmummy, good idea to go and get some prozac off the dr. Glad Christmas is over. Hope 2011 is much better.

Tiredmummy I understand how you feel with ex and lack of family support. With the loss of your dd on top you have been through it and you really need support.

I went to Butlins for last 3 Xmas's and ds aged 3,4&5 at time loved it, stayed home this year as totally skint.

Ex also violent in a non physical way. Kicking front door twice/mimic petrol bomb/burn marks on front door and waiting around corner of house 10 days before Xmas which ds 2 tutors witnessed...?was going to kick door/smash window etc...he lives abroard so should not have been sitting in car around corner as he doesn't know anyone here! I am waiting for CCTV as ex is clever man and seems to be obsessed with causing terror and fear in me? I changed my phone numbers/mobile/email 4 yrs ago as texts were constant emotional blackmail and dragging me down. You need to keep those texts as evidence.

Woman's aid is good as they really look to get support for you...which you need and Women's safety unit etc...
police have only taking the attacks serious now since Woman's Safety Unit got involved. My letterbox has been sealed by arson team, front door locks changed and harrisment order will be issued (after bad weather if not already issued).
Ds hasn't had a birthday card or present off ex since he was 2yrs and it does hurt. But I know ds is better without than with someone who is there when they please themselves. Someone who takes pleasure in not turning up to hurt me only :( as ds didn't understand back then but does now...so this has fueled ds anxiety at home (not in school due to anxiety either so don't get any break).

Contact Womens Aid they will refer you on as you need support they also give counselling too which I think you will need when the antidepressants kick in to help you cope with facing your loses(I should take this advice myself:)) You have had very very bad time don't feel bad you are not coping, I call this a completely normal response. Get the support, and respite and counselling you need as you can't function and look after ds being so beaten down by all this. Look after yourself get help x

thanks. friend has cancelled. wanted to bring ds to softplay but just cant get motivated only one bus an hour etc today and dont know if i can face outside world.
have just had a bath and put on clean pjs and ordered pizza hut pizza and pasta online as no real food in the house. i'm going to try and clean and tidy in short bursts later. ds is currently watching his beloved chuggington dvd.
still no word from ex. i know he isnt worth it but it hurts that he couldnt be bothered to even find out if ds had a nice christmas.

want2sleep sorry to hear about your ex. he sounds a nasty piece of work- i hope you are free of him now. sounds like he has narcissistic personality disorder. i used to think ex did but he is quite blatant with his nastiness. i think ex has aspergers but not diagnosed and thus the difficulties having ASD and never any support/help has made him who he is. i hope beyond hope that ds will get more support and guidance and not turn out like his sperm donor dad.

ditto about ex being aspie and sperm donar but your ds wont be like that cause he got a wonderful mum who will love, nuture and teach ds how to treat others :) :) :)
You are doing a fantastic job tiredmummy in a hard place/time and you will come out stronger from this and get the uncontinional love in return for your huge efforts...you need a bit of help and promise me you will get it as I will only worry myself silly about you so please there are organisations out their that will help and Women's Aid well I cannot thank them enough for getting it for me:) I now sleep better too