Reassure me that you too have blubbed when speaking to a professional

[Lougle]

I had the learning disabilities nurse on the phone today. It has been a tough month with DD1. I ended up crying, and asking him if he thought it was my parenting.

I don't know if I can do this. I have no idea why DD1 is the way she is. I just want to enjoy her. I want answrs, soluitons. I am exhausted by it all.

Yes, definately. I remember when DS2 was failure to thrive and he looked so ill, like the babies on comic relief and I was so scared he was going to die. I dread family service plan meetings in case I cry. I always say that if you have other children and they are developing fine then it's not your parenting that's at fault (not saying that parents of multiple children with SN are at fault either).

Does anyone NOT cry on professionals?

My distinguishing moment was when i found myself weeping in front of the whole meeting - OT, physio, nurses, teacher, SALT, SW. They had just sprung something on me.

When I tried to leave the room to compose myself the SW would not let me go and was stalking me to the bathroom. I cried harder as I could not, in my irrationality at that moment, see how to escape her.

To be chased into a toilet by a SW just seemed the lowest point at that stage

ah, it's so hard. i have cried lots. the preschool ds attends its part of the school i work in. it's been a killer for me crying in front of colleagues. i cant wait until he leaves and goes elsewhere in september.

I cry all the time. Just in general though. Whether or not I'm with a professional is completely irrelevant! If they happen to be in the room (or, I happen to be in THEIR room) and I start crying, then that's just unlucky for them! :)

I have done it many a time, I wouldn't worry if I were you. If this is the first time you've done it then you've done very well so far!

I am renowned for being a stoney faced non cryer.. I have this big old wall .. And I can get throught pretty much anything... ( usually then go and blubber in the car!)..

But even I have lost it and balled down the phone at some professional who had merely said " I here you've had a tough time, how can I help?'
gawd I got in such a state I was doing that horrid weird breathing and squeeky voiced thing down the bloody phone.. Until I just handed the phone to dh because I couldn't speak!

But I also do this horrid breezy giggle thing when I can feel myself losing it.. Gawd I swear that's worse!... Giggling at your dc's issues!..
I happen to have a meeting coming up in January that I am likey to blubber at.. Ex is going to be there.. He thinks ds2 has no issues.. And I we are going through ds's annual review.. And going over everything he struggles with...i know I'm going to be really angry.. And therefore blub!

You are so not alone!

I so know how you feel, I burst into tears at parents evening when the teacher said my 8 year old son often zones out and just copies from the blackboard because he doesn't always understand what he is supposed to be doing !!!!! Doh is that not your job, despite the fact he has learning difficulties !!!!! I felt so stupid.

Oooh yes - I do the giggle, usually when ds starts hitting me in front of a professional...makes me look bonkers!