Help please - Toilet Training ASD girl

[Eloise73]

DH and I have had a lot of great suggestions for toilet training our 3 year old daughter and she is very keen on following me to toilet and copying me but she will absolutely NOT sit down on the toilet. We have a step for her, a special cover for it (so she doesn't fall in!) but she seems scared of it. We have never forced her on it so i'm not sure why she's so scared. She loves to flush it so its not the noise.

Also, lately she's been fighting us changing her nappy standing up. They started doing this at her special ASD nursery and so we started doing it too but she fights us now and drops down to the floor spread eagled waiting for her royal change

On the flip side she seems sick of nappies and has been going to her 'poo place' for over 6 months when she feels the need upon her so she seems ready by most standards. She will also sometimes tell us she's done an poo although never when she's had a wee.

I'd be interested to hear what tricks you guys have used to encourage and finally get them to use the toilet or at least sit on it!

Have you tried a potty - might be less scary (you can't fall in!)
DD took about a year to train, but we didn't have the faintest clue she was ASD. About 3.5 it just clicked.
Will she sit on the toilet with a nappy on? We also did that for a while with DD, so that she took to associating the toilet with the act, as it were.

I trained dd2 (asd) in september after several go's. We used a potty and within a few weeks she was using the toilet, i would but her on the loo whenever we were upstairs (bed time, bath time and when i went) just to get her used to sitting on it. 2 weeks before she started school she just decided to say goodbye to nappies and use the potty and toilet. She's now dry during the day (a few accidents) and in nappies at night. We also used chocolate as a reward which helped .

Does she have sensory issues about the toilet seat itself? It could just be too cold or hard, and not pleasant for her to sit on. If you get a cheap loo seat, put a strip of foam round the seat and cover with wipe clean sticky-backed plastic of some kind, it might help? Or even something like fake fur (although you might want to fix that temporarily so it can be removed and washe regularlu )

use a potty ... put it in her poo place.

Reward her with chocolate buttons for using the potty.

If she has verbal understanding, promise something for when she is trained - I told my ASD (unknown then) child at three that "When you don't poo in your pants any more, we can go swimming" - And I swear blind that he must have simply been waiting for a damn good reason not to poo his pants because he never ever did it again. Not once. And it had been a daily occurance.

Heehee colditz, I was like that. Instantly potty trained at 2.something because "only girls who are potty trained are allowed to come to playgroup" LOL Instant dryness