teacher unfair?

[MedusaIsHavingABadHairDay]

my DS2's teacher Is really beginning to hack me off.

(background.. DS2 is 13, has MLD and ASD, special school, and is a very gentle passive boy, terribly anxious to 'be good' I also work there as a TA in a different class)
She's a good teacher.. but barks at the kids ; to be fair a couple of them do need it now and again, but DS2 doesn't need that..you say 'no' and his eyes well up!

He has been very anxious this term; lots of expectations, lots of integration (he's doing well) and while he is coping, it is only just. She gets cross with him when he doesn't understand his maths (I actually did point out to her he has LEARNING DIFFICULTIES ..that's why he is in special school!) she barks at him when he looks blank.. (ditto).

This week he wanted to take in a small selection choccy thing for his three friends. Fair enough, and sweet of him..various kids do that for each other every year. Except she said he couldn't do that.. if he wanted to bring in anything it would HAVE to be shared amongst the whole class, or not at all! Now we weren't suggesting he gave out stuff infront of the other kids.. no-one ever does... instead I drop them into the kids bags on the last day at home time.. just as the other kids do. DS2 is very upset.

I'm very cross.. and yes I am going to drop the chocs into the three friends bags... bollocks to her!

Then the panto. DS2 doesn't want to go.. it's after school, he's absolutely exhausted (he also has muscle problems, wears AFos etc) Fair enough.. I'm not going to make him! Teacher seems to have taken that as a personal insult... and has told the class that as a treat they can all wear non uniform tomorrow because they are going out after school, but DS2 isn't going so he can't wear his own clothes.

Some of the kids NEVER wear uniform even tho it is allegedly compulsory!! Would letting him NOT be the odd one out tomorrow be so wrong?
Needless to say he is upset, said 'A doesn't like me does she?'

I am unprofessionally tempted to let the tires down on her pushbike.. but any other ideas appreciated

And if course he now says he HAS to wear his uniform because she said so...:(

The teacher does seem unreasonnable on the things you mention.
I don't know what to suggest other than either having another word with her or write a letter explaining all your concerns.

It isn't fair on your DS especialy if he is very sensitive and doesn't need this kind of overly strict attitude.

I would too drop the chocs into the friends' bags, regardless of what she thinks.

(((hugs)))

Oh for fu*ks' sake! What kind of a bloody Nazi is she?

This kind of crap really annoys me. Don't these kids have enough to deal with just getting through the day? Isn't that why they are in an SEN provision?

She sounds like a total "jobsworth" and frankly is in the wrong job.

My son sounds like yours. He's ASD (more Aspie) and has OCD. It takes very little to have him in tears (he's ten) and being barked at would cause a major setback in his behaviours.

I'd write formally to the Senco and Head. I'd nip this in the bud now.

He HAS to wear his uniform if he's not going to the sodding Panto? Why? Good explanation please? She's just pissed off he won't be herded like a sheep into what everyone else is doing.

I'd let her tyres down. Every day for a week and see how she feels about being victimised. Cow.