stressed ASD & PMS doesnt mix!!

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:( having a bad day. Cant wait till DD1 goes to bed and then maybe i can breath

:(

< passes chocolate >

awww hope today is a better one. i feel like that about ds (often!)

today was a little better but DD1 is still very rude today, think the stress of xmas at school and our holiday has sent her over the edge!

ahhh poor u, it's so hard. when/where's your holiday.
i've only just put ds to bed. i'm in a lousy mood and he seems to have spent the day trashing the house
how long has dd got left at school? ds will finish pre school thurs and i finish work on the friday.
as much as i'm looking forward to no morning rush i'm sort of dreading almost 3 weeks off with him. i love him dearly but he's hard work and i feel drained and he is so full of energy.

we are off to Centre Parcs on Monday, so no more school now :)

DH has a few days off inbetween so least I dont have to manage them both on my own.

ah hope you have a lovely time away from all the hustle of life.
that's nice, would love a good partner. ds's dad lives about 30 miles away but doesnt have ds- he sometimes sees him here or at his parents' house.

:( I dont know how I would do it alone, its great to hand them over for 10 mins when he gets home.

ah i'd love that. i love him dearly bt feel out of my depth. he is on constantly, put him to bed ad hes trashed his room already clothes taken out and strewn everywhere, same with books and toys all emptied out and thrown.
earlier her covered the bath and floor with foaming blue toothpaste. i should be clearing it up but i just dont feel motivated.

I know its not done but ((hugs))
There is very little in the girls room they can trash, lucky for me, but what there is there dd2 trashes which is really hard as DD1 likes things in order and everything has its place.
I have looked into funding help to make the house a 3 bedroom but moving a few walls around but they want SS referal and I dont have SS involved, but callled them over a week ago and told they would call back within 48 hours, and they havnt called at all!

thanks x

house is tiny so nowhere else to put them. we dont even have a hallway, its a nightmare as nowhere to store stuff.
ss drive me mad. i rang them and several calls later got through to right dept. clearly explained which days hours i worked and when. they rand landline and mobile from a witheld number a few days later leaving no message and only ringing the days i asked NOT to. The next week they sent a letter saying they tried to contact me successfully on several occassiions and couldn't but that they also didn't think we needed their involvement-cheers then!
hope you are more successful. must be tough them sharing a room, i dread to think what ds would be like sharing! do your dds get on?

they do get on some times but often not. They are so different and DD1 is highly itelligent but get very fed up that her sister just doesnt get what shes saying, and doesnt react like an NT child. Got to be hard for her, shes spent so long learning the social rules of NT children and now they dont apply to her sister :(

I just wish that dd2 wouldnt wake up dd1 whe she wakes in the morning at stupid oclock

ahh must be hard on dd1 and you. ds is really intelligent too but struggles socially. i'm desperate to get him in to a communication and interaction centre attatched to a ms school in sep, i think it would help him so much and i would love having some time on my days off to try to keep the house together.
how old are your dds? how long did it take dd1 to understand more about nt behaviour? ds was 3 in august.

DD1is 7yrs but 8 in a few weeks. Its taken a long time and she still doesnt always understand whens shes being rude, or spoken out if turn but it gets better. She's in MS school but has support around social skills and managing her stress.
Girls normally pick it up quicker than boys but my friends little lad is classicly Autistic and now aged 9, he is doing so well and i could take him home :)

DD2 is 3years old. She goes to a Special Autistim preschool.

ahh sounds like she's doing well- you must be v proud.
wow that pre school sounds good- wish we had one around here. ds struggling with large classes at mainstream on reduced hours until jan when hopefully 1:1 support will start.
ah that's promising about your friends's son. gives me some hope for ds as i love him dearly but don't know if i could cope if he's like this or worse in a few years.
thanks for fb friend. it's so good to talk to someone who understand. my friend are either childfree or have nt children.

feeling a little better now. have tidied some of the mess and clutter downstairs and put all the clean washing into a black liner so its at least out of sight until i tackle putting it away. listened to cheesy xmas music as i did it.still have more to do and ds's room too but it's a step forward.