My son is 6 and while still undiagnosed, it is believed he has an ASD (high functioning), ADHD and an emotional attachment disorder (which was diagnosed by a private child psychologist earlier in the year.)
To avoid this getting too long, he's quite aggressive at times towards me, kicking, hitting, spitting, pinching also uses verbal threats. I have tried time outs, holding his hands so he doesn't strike me, giving him a quiet space that's only his in our flat..I've tried blanking the behaviour (but when I do that, he seems to persist to get a reaction.)
I'm not sure what else I could (or should) be trying, leaving him a alone during a meltdown isn't a good option as he is liable to break,throw,damage something.
I've been working on giving him more positive attention to his positive behaviours, even if it's something small like putting his plate in the sink.
This behaviour is the reason he's now on a managed move to another school. At his previous school, he had many exclusions (usually only for a day or two at a time). He is in the process of being assessed for a statement (this process only started in early November, he's seem the Ed. Psych already, CAMHS, CAMHS have written and said at this point there is no other assistance they can offer.) He sees his paediatrican again on Dec 14. He is also, at this time, not on any medication. At his new school (he started last Monday) and then had most of the week off due to snow, he is only going 2 hours in the morning and both days he went, he had meltdowns (throwing things, kicking, hitting).
I've spent some time reading threads in this section tonight and feel a lot of empathy for other parents out there. It may be worth pointing out that I am separated from my son's father and his father does see him a few times a week.
I could go on.. but for now, any words of advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance:)