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I am drinking fruity infused Gin.. And You know what?

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TheArsenicCupCake · 02/12/2010 21:26

I need it... ( actually it's very tasty).. Would you like to know how sick of the system I am? How sick of the crap that certain professional people spout?
How tired of not being an average family I am
how much I feel I don't have time to even conteplate talking about.. Because I'm always firefighting.

The list could go on.. And on.. DH feels like it too.. He doesn't say much .. I just know.. Both of us have aged too fast!

I'm not depressed .. I'm just fed up with fighting for every little scrap of something helpful to ds.. And to the family.

But would I change ds? .. Nope because he is my beautiful boy.. Even in his aggressive violent meltdowns..

Okay I'm done :) ( feel better for that)

so come drink funny gin.. And vent away on here. It's cathartic ( sp)

oh and I'm sick of not being able to blooming spell!

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smugtandemfeeder · 02/12/2010 21:43

DH has made loads of slow gin this year and I'm finding it helpful too. I'm feeling so angry and snappy and shout so much my 2yo DS says "mummy isn't shouting any more" I need to fix it but don't yet know how. Sloe gin will help a bit tonight....

andperseand · 02/12/2010 21:50

Fruity gin sounds good! Only standard red here, but it does the trick.

Sick of things here too - and we have done too much shouting today, not good.
Sick of not being able to send DS to the school I know he would walk into tomorrow if he was given the chance,
Sick of having DS at home ALL day every day.
Sick of realising that we have been kidding ourselves, the way life is now is not usual and not right.
Sick of DS opposing everything and ruling our lives.
Sick of trying to ask for help and not getting anywhere.
Sick of a system that can fail a child so badly.
Sick of being powerless to sort the above.

... and I would change him (well a little bit anyway), because he is not happy Sad

Vent over - bet you wish you hadn't suggested it. But I probably need to do it more often, you are right it helps.

Off to do the ironing now.

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TheArsenicCupCake · 02/12/2010 21:52

Glad the gin is helping :)

I don't shout. I ran out of shout a couple of years ago ( probably more)... I go deathly quiet.. They have to consentrate to listen to me then :)

ds has already he is going to be grumpy for Christmas.. And not in the meaning of snow White.. Seriously nothing like forward planning!

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TheArsenicCupCake · 02/12/2010 21:56

Actually I would have ds changing in being bit happier.. But not him as such :)

we need to get it out of our system so we can have a reasonable Christmas ! ( or Xmas hols if you don't do the christmas bit).

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andperseand · 02/12/2010 22:02

Christmas! Here DS alarmed me by saying he has 'lost the will to live' about Christmas. Turns out he is really anxious about presents, what will he get, how will he wait ... am trying to formulate a plan to deal with this.

Haven't got plan A yet, but plan B will be to just give him a list of who is giving him what I think!

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TheArsenicCupCake · 02/12/2010 22:13

Pressy issue we have licked with ds..
He writes a list.. He knows he will get the things on the list.. ( he doesn't ever go over budget lol .. He knows this too.. FC had a budget you know).. He knows what shapes the things are and so if x y z shape is under the tree .. He knows family will be along later with the other items from said list.

Advent calander helps with amount of time to go and we do the same christmas eve every year.. Talk about it before every year ( even the same food and special movie for gawd sake)..
Christmas morning.. We are up at the same ungodly hour every year.. Partly because he can't sleep and partly because it gives chill down time for the next bunch of visitors. People come to us... In batches!

Tis all military precision :)

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auntyfash · 02/12/2010 22:14

Gin sounds lovely!I have just sent dh to go buy wine.

Can I have a whinge too please? Ds (almost 7) has been an absolute pita the last two days. He always gets worse in winter, with his ticcing and touchy things, but tonight (after having had almost no sleep last night, and still awake tonight even after doubling up his melatonin) has got so worked up about things touching him that he's stripped off and is squatting on the bed to avoid anything at all touching him. Poor little sod is really stressed out and wishes it would all stop :(

Actually, since I started typing this he's gone quiet. Hopefully he's fallen asleep.

Anyway, wine O'clock!

TheYuleLogLady · 02/12/2010 22:17

small whinge.

I lost it with DD2 losing it this morning. She kicked me really hard so I slapped her. This doesn't work. It just makes us both feel worse. I am ashamed of myself.
Tell me about the gin. I have some damson gin in the cpboard. at what point do i take out the damsons and drink it? can I eat the damsons?

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TheArsenicCupCake · 02/12/2010 22:18

Feel free to moan :)
poor you and poor ds.. I can't thing of anything that might help either :(

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auntyfash · 02/12/2010 22:20

Thanks arsenic :)

Yuleloglady, we all have a breaking point and we have a lot to bloody cope with. Don't be too hard on yourself. Go get the gin and eat the damsons too!

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TheArsenicCupCake · 02/12/2010 22:20

Yule log open a bottle and see if it's ready Wink..
We have blackberry gin open at the moment.. Tis tres yum.. ( I ate the blackberries dumped on top of vanilla cheese cake!.. I did share lol)

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TheYuleLogLady · 02/12/2010 22:24

thanks. i feel shit. i am shit.

i shall eat gin soaked damsons and try to be nicer tomorrow. DD is also much worse with touchy stuff in winter (although not naked rocking bad yet) - never realised that before. must be the dry catchy feeling. poor babies.

fightingthezombies · 02/12/2010 22:24

Hi Arsenic I'll happily join you in a strong drink. Am fed up of going into meetings with professionals and ending up in tears about ds. Have worked so hard to get the best for him but there's no end in sight and just feel things are going to get worse. Will have to namechange to fightingthetears I think.

woolyxmastree · 02/12/2010 22:27

Were on the gin too! Xmas Smile

DD hates FC...is terrified! Tried everything but he simply cannot exist in this house. She is driving me crazy being home all day due to snow and will be home tomorrow as school already text me to say they are shut....that also means no IEP review as it was at 9am. :(

...and I was supposed to go see Jools Holland tonight but that was also cancelled...so booo hooo...another G&T I think.

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TheArsenicCupCake · 02/12/2010 22:32

Fighting I've poured you a large one!

Wooly omg .. I would be so upset about the joules holland thing :(
so a large one for you too.

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auntyfash · 02/12/2010 22:33

I do think there's something seasonal about ads you know. Ds is always far worse in winter.

Yuleloggyperson, you are NOT shit! But I know that feeling. I get so cross sometimes, I scream and I shout and it makes things worse. I too am going to try to be nicer tomorrow :)

fightingthezombies, I hear you.

raises glass to all the sn parents feeling like shite

Lauree · 02/12/2010 22:37

Oh thankyou all.
I was feeling guilty about sitting here drinking the sloe gin I made for christmas presents, all by myself.
It helps to know I'm not the only one...

I hate this time of year. DS wants to know if Farmer Christmas is coming tomorrow...and who will look after the farm while he and the reindeers are out delivering presents. he can't sleep because he's so excited. I'm exhausted with lack of sleep and then I overslept and we got to school and hour late today. and I have NO IDEA what to get him for christmas, and his birthday which are within two days of each other because XP buys him everything he ever expresses even the slightest interest in straight away. grr.

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TheArsenicCupCake · 02/12/2010 22:46

:) @ farmer Christmas .. That is brilliant!

grr on the xp getting in first.. :(

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NorthernSky · 02/12/2010 22:50

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woolyxmastree · 02/12/2010 22:53

Xmas Smile at farmer christmas!

How old id he, what sort of things does he enjoy? Im a shopaholic and willing to offer ideas if you like!

Got another gin...dp is watching boring tv.

andperseand · 02/12/2010 22:56

Ooh we are all going to have a headache in the morning.

Fighting - know what you mean about meetings and appointments. 24 this term - think I am going on strike soon - they can all come to me. On second thoughts no because then I would have to tidy up and besides it's almost the only time I get out Grin

Pity they have not achieved much though.

auntyfash · 02/12/2010 22:59

shopaholic?! :o Oooh you can help me please!

Ds also has his birthday just before Xmas, and all he wants is a raleigh hotrod bike, but sadly we can't afford one. Can you find a cheap one anywhere for me please? I'll be your best friend if you can!

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TheArsenicCupCake · 02/12/2010 23:01

Ha haa to putting RL on hold.. And ignoring what has to be done.. Same here.. I am seriously going to either give up work or drop to a day or two at most. Even though I work from home.. I just can't do everything

And that is going to seriously hit our finances :(

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JustBeachy · 02/12/2010 23:10

auntyfash there are quite a few on ebay like this one but you prob want to search for ones near where you live...good luck!

auntyfash · 02/12/2010 23:14

Thanks justbeachy, I'm looking on there atm and have found a reasonablyish priced one. Still more than I wanted to pay (I like to spend the same on all the kids) but I think I might go for it. He hates surprises, and doesn't want anything else...