Ds is nearly 11, has AS, copes very well with it and is doing well and very happy
he is friends with a boy who lives near us,he and the friend get on most of the time but when they dont get on it has ended in them fighting each other
about a month ago they had a big fight in the street which loads of people told me was not my DS's fault and that he was right to defend himself, i was disappointed he ended up fighting but told him yes he has to stick up for himself but more important has to look for signs of trouble and leave if he can
so he has been avoiding this boy, until today when he came home and said they had another fight, the other boy pushed him over and started kicking him, DS told me he pulled his hair really hard and kicked him as hard as he could, I was not happy about it but told him I understand how this boy winds him up and he has to keep away from him or else he will end up in trouble
then the boy calls to the house saying his mum had sent him over to tell me my DS had pulled his hair out, he was holding some hair in his hand and crying, so I said the same thing to him as I had said to DS, keep away from each other when you are not getting along and fighting is wrong and not the way to sort anything out etc
the thing thats bothering me is that this boy gets into fights all the time and my DS has never been in a fight with anyone other than him and I know this boys mum is very quick to talk to parents and shout at other kids to leave this boy alone
So I am friends with his mum, do I explain how I see things or just leave it?