Was speaking to some parents of autistic children and they said 'you must claim'. Hadn't thought of it before.
(What follows is a description of what I think might be releavant for claiming DLA)
Our son is 8 years old, and has a 7-page report from the paediatric doctor as having an ASD [he is high-functioning/what you might call aspergers, though that wasn't in his diagnois]
She said "He is a lovely boy. He is bright and gifted at Maths"
"he will require specific teaching of social skills" and "he would benefit from speech & language therapy input to school"
Re 'lovely' basically he is not ever violent and generally is easy-going.
Some of the notes from the report
"He is safe to be left alone in a room or the garden. He needs watching on the roads, as he will tend to go into the road."
"He finds it difficult to follow instructions, he will do a part and then gets distracted" "has difficulty remembering sequences of instructions"
She noted that he tends to let other people push in front of him in queues, because he gets distracted. [Also if we say 'go pay for this' in a shop, he is going to need supervision - he won't be sure where to pay, whom to give the money to, he won't follow the queue, etc.]
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Regarding mobility we like to ride bikes, but he's not really safe on the road.
For example we're riding along the road and he moves out towards the centre a little just as a car passes. I say to him 'did you hear that car coming up behind' [his hearing is fine, we've had it tested], he says 'yes', but he is unable to explain why he moved out towards the oncoming car.
Another time we were going along the road and he was a little ahead of me. We needed to turn right. I shouted at him to 'wait' and he didn't acknowledge me. Shouted it again and he turned right into the (very visible) oncoming car. No harm done as the car stopped. I asked him 'why did you do that?'. 'I thought you said right'. He doesn't really understand where he's supposed to position for turning, either, no matter how many times he's told, and he doesn't pick it up intuitively.
So I've bought an (expensive) bike to take him on with me because of the dangers there.
Walking is basically ok - he doesn't run into the road randomly, but he does need someone to walk with him.
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His behaviour isn't really problematic, he's more passive than anything. One time he was in a mixed activity with children age 8-16. I went down to watch and found one of the older children holding his head down against the ground. He wasn't saying anything. I asked him why he didn't protest, but he said he didn't know why.
When he's school he's generally compliant but he will rely on watching other children do rather than listening to instructions. He regularly loses his games kit, and has come home with one sock on a few occasions, lost books, etc.
He needs supervision when he's getting changed, getting ready for bed, otherwise he will invariably get distracted by something, anything, and not finish the task.
This weekend he accidentally dropped my laptop on the floor causing several hundred pounds of damage. Not sure how it happened, he's not very good at explaining things to people who weren't there.
As he gets older (well, from now) he's going to need a lot of (expensive) social skills training so he understands how to play and interact with other children. He's bad at joining in, prefers to find younger children whom he can tell what to do. At the moment his peers are fairly tolerant, but he's going to be more at risk as he grows up.
He doesn't have any particular routines, sensory issues, doesn't throw tantrums in public generally, though he does at home - he gets angry when he's told he's done his homework wrong, doesn't like to listen to criticism or suggestions how to do things better 'I KNOW' he shouts (he doesn't usually), and bursts into tear and stomps off, so it is difficult for us to instruct him (I believe he is fine at school).
He achieves well in maths and music and ok generally otherwise (in a mainstream school), though when the speech + language assessment was done he came around the 5th percentile for things like inference or figuring out what's happening in a picture (by comparison his reading age is 13ish).