just wanted to say, I have done the same thing, but initiated by me...basically, if school are initiating it, would it be helpful to see what they are putting so that you can find examples from home which support what school is saying/their aims?
Basically I used my letter as a way of setting out my stall: these are the problems my child has then an example of that problem in practice and then in summary what exactly I am looking for in help/why the current support is not sufficient to meet my child's needs if he is to "access the curriculum".
My LA has agreed to SA and has asked me for yet another submission and have suggested these headings:
What do you remember about your child's early years that might be important?
Were you happy with your child's progress at that time?
When did you think your child might have special needs?
What help and advice did you receive and from whom?
What sort of things does your child mostly spend time doing at home? Does your child have any hobbies or interests outside school?
How would you describe your child's behaviour at home? e.g. co-operating with rules and routines, helping etc
How would you describe your child's relationships with you, brothers, sisters, friends, other adults?
How do you think your child's needs have affected your family as a whole?
What are your hopes and aspirations for your child?
Now this is just what my LA has asked (and given about 3 lines to answer each question...ha ha ha) but basically it might help you structure your thinking and the key thing, I believe, is that if school have an agenda (e.g. they have in mind the kind of help they believe your child might benefit from) and you agree with that, then try to draw out examples which will go towards providing not only a true, complete picture of your child, but address these concerns.
Hope that helps...am still finding my feet so am sure someone who has actually been through the process will be along soon with some better tips!
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