Was this rude? Should I complain?

[StarkAndWitchesWillFindYou]

Can you lot tell me if this was very rude or not.

Had an appointment with the SALT today. I observed a session and then had a chat afterwards. Time was getting on and then she said 'right, we have to be quick and set some targets'. I offered to come back next week but she said 'no, let's do them now. Let me just go and tell them I'm going to be a bit late', so she popped out.

She came back and we did 3 targets. SHE said 'let us have a fourth, we can quickly add another one'.

Then there was a knock on the door and a woman came in and said TO ME 'Mrs X has to finish now because she needs to work with the children on the base'. To which Mrs X replied that she would be just 5 minutes.

This strikes me as incredibly rude. Surely Mrs X is capable of managing her own time, but if not, the 'woman' who came in should not have directed her comment at ME but to Mrs X.

Was this verging on bullying, given the meeting I have just had with the school where I kicked their butts. Or is it that this 'woman' has heard about the drama and wanted in on it?

It was exceptionally rude but I don't think I would make a complaint. Think one of those situations where fine to have a head-on confrontation at the time. Though I would have expected Mrs X to have spoken up e.g. "actually Star suggested we rebook but I insisted we finish our conversation now." I would hazard a guess that the assistant person gets it in the neck from the base when the SALT is late, but that is nowt to do with you.

Mrs X was longer than her promised 5 minutes because she appeared so shocked and surprised by this 'woman' that it took her a couple of minutes to get back on track.

You're probably right about complaining, but I'll remember her for the future and if she dares do anything like that again I'll be rude right back.

Mrs X may even have a word with the rude woman herself if she appeared shocked by it at the time. Rude woman definitely sounds like she is over-due a rebate from the school of charm!

I suppose what I am upset about is that I have probably been talked about as a difficult time-consuming parent and this woman fancied a chance to get in on the scape-goating action.

My ds is disadvanted enough and I am stressed enough without her sticking her oar in and attempting to sabotage what we do get.

It was as if I was being told off for depriving poor disabled base-children from their therapy.

We do something like this as a support for other teachers.
Some parents (Not you Stark) can ask for 15 mins and be in talking for an hour or more. If the teacher is inexperienced, or not very confident, it can be hard for them to disengage, especially if the parent is quite a dominant person.
So after an allotted timespan, one of us will pop our head around the door just to mention that meeting that we had agreed to have with the teacher.
Teacher then smiles, says they'll be along shortly and has a reason to be able to end the encounter with no hurt feelings, and parent can rebook if necessary.
Or teacher can say 'I'm sorry, I'll have to miss the meeting' and the colleague leaves.
I think Mrs X handled it badly, and the woman should have spoken to her not you.Unless said woman had been told off by a parent before for ignoring her when giving the same message on an earlier occasion.
If it hasn't happened on previous occasions, it can't be classed as bullying behaviour either.

I can understand why your immediate reaction is that it was a personal thing (I would) but it could also be the case that the rude woman is like that to everyone and would treat any other parent equally absymally.

Yes Goblin I thought it might be something like that. I thought perhaps when she popped out she might have asked someone to come in after 10 mins or something, but her reaction looked genuine, and actually I felt I was on the edge of my seat trying to get away myself so probably took it personally when the rude woman came in, because I was TRYING to leave.

She really should have spoken directly to Mrs X and just 'reminded her of her class' or whatever. I can see what you mean about why it isn't bullying but it did seem like a personal attack. This woman had no idea what the purpose or content or context to this meeting was, so to come in with the assumption that the difficult parent is holding up the SALT is out of order.

That's why I think your SALT handled it badly, and should have made it clear she was the one prolonging the meeting.
Perhaps she over-runs regularly.
I'm sorry you were made to feel in the wrong.

Of course it's rude but luckily witnessed, so rising above it is more effective than complaining This shows the SALT what unprofessional behaviour you've been dealing with far more effectively than any explanation ever could.

Yeah, you're probably right. Need to save my complaining for the serious stuff that is going to make a difference to my ds, not to my feelings.

Won't do me any harm to simply ignore rude woman.

Mrs X should have handled it better but she truly was speechless.

I think there might be more going on than I know about. At the kick butt meeting the HT was saying something I wanted wasn't doable and the SALT replied that 'she' at least could do it.

Trouble is. I saw a SALT lesson and she can't get much out of ds. She didn't seem that good. But during the chat afterwards she certainly knows her stuff about what ds' problems are and what can/should be done about it. She's just crap at 'teaching' ds how to do it.

Luckily I'm not, so if we can have a good working relationship we can do it between us I reckon. So I don't want her to think me petty do I?