loftuslass the criteria for children are more stringent than for adults.
For each and every area of 'care needs' that you present, you have to show that:
a) the child requires 'attention' or 'supervision' with that aspect of personal care
and
b) the 'attention' or 'supervision' needed is significantly more than a typical (neither exceptionally able nor exceptionally immature) child of his or her age would need.
The very best way to fill out the forms is to use the Cerebra guide, and approach it in the following way:
1)What does your child find difficult about this area of daily living?
2)What help does he or she need with this area of daily living?
3)Do his or her needs fluctuate? If so what happens on a typical day, a worse day and the worst days?
4)What effect does his or her difficulty have on him or her?
5)What would happen if he or she didn't get this 'attention' or 'supervision?
6) Why shouldn't he or she need to go without this help?
Never ever stick to the boxes they give you. Use a Microsoft Word Document, and then either write 'see 'Question x' on separate pages' or cut out the answers and paste them in to the boxes, folding the paper to fit.
Always use their name throughout, to remind the decision maker that this is a real person.
Be explicit. For example, if describing DD1's medication, I would say:
"DD1 requires medication for her epilepsy and sleep. In order to give her the medicine, I have to draw up the prescribed dose of liquid into a syringe. I then have to go to DD and convince her that we need to give her her medicine. She will often run away screaming 'HIDE!' and I have to retrieve her from wherever she is hiding. She will then bury her face into the sofa. As I am giving the medication, I have to ensure that she is unable to spit it out, as she needs the full dose, and it is impossible to tell how much has been spat out.
Once I have given DD the medicine, I have to calm her down, and wash out the syringe ready for the next use.
She needs the medication for epilepsy twice per day, and each time the process can take 20 minutes in total."
Otherwise, a decision maker who doesn't ever give a child medicine, could think that this is a 1 minute job. Get medicine, give it, job done.
You also need to remember that there are key words that satisfy the criteria. You have to show 'attention' or 'supervision'. So, with dressing, even if it takes your DS 2 hours to dress, unless you show that it is necessary for you to do something to help him dress, it is discarded. Otherwise, a child who is lazy and defiant could qualify for DLA.
So, you have to show them that without your 'attention' or 'supervision' your DS would either not get dressed at all, or he would get distressed, or put the items on in the wrong order, etc.
I am not unsympathetic, at all, it is miserable stuff, but I think your energies would be better placed trying to understand why you didn't get the message across, rather than getting angry with the DWP. They are doing a difficult job, weeding out the cases that qualify from the cases that don't, and then deciding what rate you qualify for.