had a laugh when i saw what teacher wrote in DS's communication book today!!!

[genieinabottle]

DS (5, asd) came out of the toilet today and walked back to the classroom without pulling his pants and trousers back on as he wanted someone to wipe his bum!

Teacher said no staff obviously could do this! But she guided him and supervised so he could do it himself.

While i found it funny, i just hope he doesn't keep doing it as his classroom is the furthest away from the toilets, and that means he crossed the whole of the corridor passing 2 other classrooms with his trousers and pants round his ankles!!!

Erm... Find the positive... He is nearly fully toilet-trained and didn't walk around messy all day? You don't have skid marks to deal with? :)

There were some bum wiping issues with DS not doing it at all and pulling his pants back on, and of course me finding skids marks and him with a s* arse nearly every day.
So i wrote a note in his book and said if someone could check with him when he asks to go... and i'll put some fresh pants in his bag just in case.
So i suspect they have had a word with him about it, and him not understanding properly thought he had to walk there to get them to wipe his bum!
At home he shouts for me when he has finished, so... maybe he shouted?? but as his classroom is too far away they may not have heard him.

Teacher said they have re-explained to him that he must say to someone if he is going for a poo before he goes to toilets... not after!

Before isn't a word in his vocabulary so i'm doubtful that he has understood tbh.

Sounds like something my 5 year old DS2 would do. Good initiative!

Sounds like a TA needs to go with him when he goes. I have done this before (not bum wiping, well not in mainstream lol) and, at 5, I would expect them to anticipate stuff like this?

DH has arrived home from work a little while ago and he is really peeved about the 'incident'!!

He is worried kids will really start picking on DS if stuff like this happen.
And that if DS would get a bit more support at school then things like this would not be happening (i can only agree!)

So as he is the one droping DS off to school tomorrow he wants to have a quiet word with teacher about it.

Do you think he may be over-reacting a bit?
Surely DS can't be the only kid in reception doing that sort of thing...

My DD has toileting issues and wets herself almost every day on the walk home, I asked teachers to make her go before the end of school, which they agreed to but often dont.

Today as I collected her I said 'Do you need a wee?' She said 'NO' I repeated she said 'NO'...as she was walking to the toilets...she then stood in the open doorway of the entrance with her bum out before walking into the cubicles...two TAs saw her and just laughed.

Not the only kid!:) Support is a constant issue!

genie

Right now it funny but think Dh might be right as time goe son if not sorted now as in Ta going with him helping him will be the sort of thing dc pick up on

Eh, I'm not understanding why 'obviously' none of the school staff could help him to clean his bum???

My LO is mobile but has other issues needs help to clean his bum and he doesn't have the dexterity to do it. His 1-1 does it, encourages him to do as much as she can and if she's not there there are another 3 people in the school who can do it. Si it's not impossible.

xx

genie,

re your comment:-

"DH has arrived home from work a little while ago and he is really peeved about the 'incident'!!

He is worried kids will really start picking on DS if stuff like this happen.
And that if DS would get a bit more support at school then things like this would not be happening (i can only agree!)

So as he is the one droping DS off to school tomorrow he wants to have a quiet word with teacher about it.

Do you think he may be over-reacting a bit?"

Actually genie I do not. This is precisely the sort of thing that children will pick on others for; would not be at all surprised if some of the other children have socially isolated him already in the playground for instance:(. Some children even at this age can be incredibly cruel to those who appear "different" to them.

The surest way to get this and other issues addressed (and you know what I'm going to write next!) is a Statement.

Genie, as you know my son is older than yours but I do remember reception (with a bit of a shudder). In my DS's class they were all without exception toilet trained.

LDo keep us posted.

Thanks for replies.

Well DH had a word with teacher, and she quickly said 'oh other children have done it before!'.
So DH dug his heels in and said something along the lines that the staff needs to check with DS to make sure he understands what is expected, and if there are doubts then he needs re-explaining to a simpler level and supervision.
Teacher said she can see that and they will do it, but she repeated that this issue wasn't particular to DS.

It is so annoying, each and every time an issue crops up and no matter how nicely we approach the school, the same old line with 'the other children' comes up!