I know it's stupid but party invites rant....

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Bloody mother in the playground giving out invites for her horrid twins birthday party. She was passing them out to the other mums. All the other mums looked at me to see if I got passed one.

Of course, I didn't.

They can all breathe a sigh of relief as DS won't be there to spoil their kids fun.

Thing is those twins are naughty. My kid does weird stuff cos of his ASD but at least he isn't naughty

Bah, I'm being oversensitive, I know

Ah well, bloody woman, she'll get hers

I dread this starting at DS2's school. I'm not sure if I'm relieved or not that I haven't seen any invitations flying about. Either I'm not observant or it's just not as big an issue in our area. Fingers crossed it's just not a big thing.

That being said, I got all weepy this morning when a little girl from DS2's classroom walked by us on the way to school and heard her say to her mum "that's (DS2's name), he's naughty in class sometimes." Thankfully his mum handled it well, and then the little girl wanted to hold hands with DS2 while they were walking. DH claims it's because all girls like the "bad boys." But it still made me sad that they think he's being naughty in class.

Not anticipating invites if they think he's naughty. Perhaps I'll be relieved at this point, as he hasn't noticed it.

For the last 2 years ds (age 9) invited around 30 children from his ms class to his party - we have not had any invites - although he did get a couple of invites when he was 7. He actually asked if he could go to anyone's party as his 4 year old sister gets an invite every other week, this being the year most people in pre-school have big parties.

It is heartbreaking.

Have to say that I invited the 7 children from ds's session at special school but not one of them turned up and only two mother bothered replying.

I guess the SN kids just aren't on the other mum's radar. Or they are hugely ignorant.

Triggles that must have been hard. I teach my DS' peers from Nursery (he's now in the village school where we live but used to go to Nursery in the school where I teach) and I mentioned something about my son to one of them (something along the lines that he liked Spongebob too) and the girl piped up that 'oh I remember him in Nursery - he was the noisy crazy one' and ther rest agreed.

oh , ta.

I then explained he was autistic and they asked me what it meant. I said his brain worked differently and that it made his brain work differently and he found some things really hard but other hard stuff really easy.

(gotta educate these NT kids early, I say)

oh, that was a bit garbled. But you get my drift.

Waiting for the diet coke to kick in....

We had a child join us half way thro year 5, he has Down Syndrome, from the start all the kids loved him (I was his LSA by the way) he was invited to all the boys parties, but didnt go so much to the girls, as he didnt like pink and make up!!

I posted yesterday on this thread so I thought i'd have a quick catch up. I was really hoping though, to read some lovely and positive stories, but they all seem very similar.

For some reason I was up until 3 last night, crying and trying to get my head around the fact that dd wont be doing the "normal"things in life. She has yet to be diagnosed but some days it's quite clear there's something not quite right. I had a meeting with the school she'll be starting at in jan and even though I was doing most of the talking and nobody had said anything negative because they haven't even met her yet, It just all felt real for the first time. Like this was it. So many things from january are going to be taken out of my hands and it terrifies me. I know i've gone off the subject but I really needed to get that out.

Going back to the subject of invites I was really tempted this year to send out some for dd's birthday at the end of the month, but I just don't know now. I have to admit i'm not the strongest of people emotionally and I fear this would tip me over the edge. She keeps asking for a birthday party, which she gets but it's always been family before and I think she's starting to get that she should having other children at her party.

Does anyone think I should put the invites out regardless?

MJB66, I have to say that my dd's pre school have a little boy with Downs Syndrome and everybody loves him too. I think that with something like Downs Syndrome, it's quite clear to a child that they are different, but with ASD etc it's not always so obvious, so the child can quite often just come across as "naughty" or to put it bluntly, "weird". I know that sounds awful, but I think that's probably why ASD children would struggle more, socially.

It's hard to get your head round ASD behaviour as an adult so it must be impossible for kids. I know my son frightens other children because of his unpredictability. I have been told often by his teacher that his crying makes the others cry too.

I guess that's why we are not ankle deep in party invitations...

MissNutty I'd go ahead with the party. Start as you mean to go on - make sure there's a chill out area for DD too. It's blardy hard all the pesky meetings, isn't it? I feel like they are 'evaluating' me too.

I think we all feel like you at times. It's not a club we chose to join . You will grow a thicker skin in time - I'm quite the battleaxe these days. I still cry from time to time - he's my only child after all. I occasionally grieve for child I didn't have but most of the time I'm grateful for the sparky little monkey I have got.