behave emotionally like a toddler but he is 7.

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I have a 7 years old son who is very intelligent and clever.He is also very on board and in tune what surrounding him.He has a grown up brain.His academic ability is advance for his age.

But his emotion is like a toddler at times.He does give sudden upsetness as a result it creates tantrum.For e.g this morning walking to school,saw one of his girl classmate wearing a white and grey stripy socks.He started getting upset by saying why am i wearing grey socks.He pointed the girl socks and cried by waving his whole body.

They came up to him and ask why while i explained he cried more ridiculously.I requested them to walk first i will explain later.My son continuous behave emotionally.I turn back to the home direction and claimed lets go home if you continued behave that way.He said no,so I asked him to stop behave unreasonable then we can continue to walk to sch.Then i told him that kind of socks not allow in school.I can get him one n get himself to trouble.He said no.

Then he claimed he wanted to walk pass them.I told him if u do u going to get upset unless he control himself.So we swiftly walked pass and he was happy kept saying quick lets walk faster otherwise we going to be late.Reach the queue he gave his teacher packet of sweets and he was settled when he saw his teacher said thank you n smile at him.

This kind of emotional behaviour not first time,it has been on going.Another example at the rest on my bday in sept.He had another sudden upsetness when the waiter gave us young guest menu,I tried to tell the waiter we dont want the youg guest menu but waiter seems didnt understand and still continue giving us that menu.So it triggered my son.We were with his best friend's family.My son cried n screamed,ran off in the restuarant by giving the body movement.Took me 5 to 7 mins to control him.I was so embarass in the public,some people stared at us.I didnt enjoy the dinner due to he was demanding off and on during dinner time.I felt more stress than enjoyed the meal.

Another example he cried on halloween day.Was upset that no one knocked the door.He didnt want to go out for trick or treat just wanted to stay home gives sweet.That upsetness was none stop,stressed me ou.I tried to explain and reason to him,he just not listen.I even told him off but not working.So I went out to check whether any children go round knocking.The place where we live not many people know there are houses,because it is in the alley and cul de sac area.So i managed top guide the group of children with thier carer to come to our house,my son was happy.

As a single mother I find it so challenging,i constantly run out of energy when this episode happen.I wander can anyone relate or experience this situation.??Please advise what I shud do.Sometimes I wander is it something wrong with him?When he was age 5,every time someone birthday in his class,they sing bday songs and he started has this sudden upsetness and cried but that stops when he was 6.His birthday fall on summer holiday so they never sang him any birthday songs till I explained to the teacher and the teacher organised the children sing bday song twds the end of summer sch holiday and he abled to give out sweets when he was 5.Now he replace something else to have this sudden emotions.It seems worsen..Please advise.Thank you.

If you have concerns about his emotional development Id get a refferal to a development peadiatrician from your GP, to do this you need to outline his behavioural difficulties/anxiety issues and unreasonable behaviour.

Are there any other issues? Quirky behaviours? Need for routines? How is he at school? Have you asked teachers about his behaviour? Any concerns?

HTH :)

He is in an early year plus action since he had delay speech when he was in nursery,referred to another school specialise in langugue unit and consulted speech therapist.With in 2 weeks he able to talk and read any form of text with no phonically help.He could even read turkish text phonically correct,and even teachers notes etc with great understanding.Which i was told by the teacher and relevant professional helped him when he was in the nusery for 6 months at that school.Then he was transferred back to this school he original were in it when he started nursery.The educational psychology assessed him again and claimed he is a perfectionist when thing didnt go perfect which he knows how it works he gets upset which is common.So she recomended him to be on gifted nad talented list. He is also on gifted and talented list for maths,reading and music.They do monitor him in class,this teacher is new she said his behaviour is not the worst,she saw worsen..I took him to see the gp who specialise paediatric area said at this age he is attach and is common.The doctor said if he throw tantrum talk to him and help him to understand.

He have been seen the paediatric doctor since born due to his health till he was 5,that doctor refered him to see educational pyschology when i expressed my concern about his speech 5 YEARS AGO.He has been assessed 5 times by the educational psychology,and SERC during the period of when he was 3 till 6.The SERC granted him a laptop to support him do extra work after assessed him last february,he go the l;aptop in APRIL THIS year but the school lost his laptop during summer holiday and not yet replace.i had follow up on it many times but still nothing happen,m used to their slow and inefficient organisation.The report came back was he is very bright and mature child for his age.His academic ability is advance for his age.He able to read year 6 onwards book when he was 3 after able to speak.They alos said only take them 2 mins to figure out he is a stand up child,very observant,intelligent and the way he talk to them like an adult which is mature for his age when he was 5/6.

The school knows he is a child didnt like routine changes,he like task to be deliverschool timetable..The Senco who helped him left for other post as head teacher.Now this senco not good,very slcking and havent arrange any meeting for a year now when last saw was last year november.Shee didnt think is needed.Claimed they are more important case than him that what i was told.At a certrtain period he stuggle to go to school when school started this term after 2 weeks later.He cried when reached to his classroom,now he settled after half term is over.

One mother from times to times told me what his son which is his best friend same class said to this mum Adam was the one always finsih classwork task and nothing to do so he will either walked around the classroom to read the notice board etc.The teacher at times said sometimes he does shout out during class activities or discussions..so he got warning and sent out the classroom once. asked him he claimed the way teacher taught was wrong about certain subject like geography and RE.He knows alot in that area.

I told him even though he needs to tolerate by being silent and not distract others from learning.He enjoys doing his maths with children who are 1 year above him.He was put to maths set top grp with year 4 during maths lesson..I must said he is a very chatty child he talks about politic or any current affair to different people he thinks they can relate.He has a wide range of interest and knowledge.I tried to stop him for gaining more knowledge worry he over loaded his brain.

he likes an unbalance scale,his weight of knowledge and academic are so heavy and his emotion is so light not balance.Just like a brain of a teenager or adult but emotionally he like a child under 5,he is a sensitive child.He has tendency of thinking negatively.For example last two week agohe wasnt well off school and the same time i had doctor appt for my blood test result.He was sitting there quietly as i asked in the surgery gp room.When the doctor told me my result abt my chloestrol level is slightly high,a few seconds later he cried and said he wanted to go home now because he scared of knowing my life maybe shorten. or he thought something wrong with my health.He knows high cholestrol level does increase heart disease etc.. I am very slim,so from that incident occasionally he will look at me and said Mummy I want you to have long long life so when I get a job earn money i buy you a big house..

I sense there is a fear in him of worrying he will lose me,sometimes he will burst to tears and said something like I want you to be with me etc..

I explained to the doctor that day about my concern he didnt think any problem with him.He said is common at this age they still quite attach.Now am writing every incident of hi emotional behaviour so I can make another appt to see the doctor which is tomorrow with my son presence.It was hard to discuss with the doctor when he is presence.

My DD has ASD. Have you thought of looking in to Aspergers Syndrome?..I am not an expert and I of course have no professional qualifications to diagnose your son but with his difficulties along side his intelligence it could be a possibility??? I dont know your DS so Id say look on the NAS website for info and see if it sounds familiar. If not could he see someone about his anxiety issues at least? You certainly sound as though you think something is not quite right. Dont let the gp fob you off, demand a refferral to a development paed...and if not a second opinion.

Good luck.

He sounds like an absolute sweetheart!

The only practical advice I can give is to look into Emotional Literacy to help him develop ways to express his emotions. I had a keyboy once who struggled with this, and built up to extrememly violent incidents every few weeks - he was 15 and pretty much full grown!

I started him using a sheet of paper every night with 4 faces (happy, sad, angry, other) for him to fill in with the days overall feeling, a space for the positives in the day and a space for the negatives. He really enjoyed it, because writing it down in privacy was much easier for him than knowing when to talk about it, how and who to. He also had a wonderful time trying to find words in the dictionary that described how he was feeling :)

His frustration levels, and aggressive behaviour, plummeted, and (he was new to the school) he started to make friends - huge positive for him, he'd never had one! He eventually moved on to keeping a diary, just like a lot of other people do.

HTH

Thank you,i will look at both possibility.

Good luck. Let us know how you get on...and if we can help in any way. :)