tiredmummyneedswineandsleep From my experience you will need to tread carefully, and think very well about what you want for your DS.
My DD1 is exactly as you say "i know ds would require full time 1:1 in order to have a chance of succeeding in the education system and also for his own and others safety as he has absolutely no sense of danger, fear or understanding of boundaries. he at times is completely uncooperative and will not comply with instructions/requests. "
What you need to be aware of is that there are two ways of dealing with a child like your DS (and my DD1).
You can send them to a Mainstream State School, where the school is likely to be open plan, not massively secure (although secure enough for NT children), ready access to areas such as toilets, which allow access to running water etc.
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You can send them to a LA Maintained Special School, which tends to have measures in place to allow a child such as your DS and my DD freedom, because the environment is modified. For example, barrel bolts on bathroom doors to avoid free access, door handles on top and middle of classroom doors to stop children wandering out and getting into danger, playgrounds sectioned, with gates between, to allow play in a defined area, metal posts wrapped in 'soft-play' type covering, to prevent injuries.
So, any LA that gets papers for a child who needs constant supervision for their own safety and that of others, needs to look at four things:
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What is the best setting to meet the child's needs?
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What is parental preference?
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What is the most efficient use of resources?
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Is it incompatible with the education of other children at the MS school to have your child there?
If your DS 'only' has ASD/ADHD and his learning capability is good despite this, but needs to work on social skills, you might feel he needs to be with a 'model' peer group, ie NT children who will be an example to him of interaction he needs to develop.
If your DS is more globally affected, you might find that you are happy for him to have individualised education within a MS setting (ie. he would be with his NT peers, but likely to be taught at his own pace, and have a TA to do so). Or, you may feel that he would be better in an environment where all the children have additional needs, and special needs teaching methods are part of the whole school day.
The reason you have to tread carefully, is that you have to provide 'parental advice'. Also, you will to some extent by discussion with the professionals, influence their reports.
If you want your DS to be educated in MS school, you need to get a balance between arguing for 1:1 support, but at the same time carefully minimising the emphasis on how disruptive to other class members or school events your DS could be.
If you want your DS to be educated in a Special School, you really need to emphasise the need for security, safety, constant supervision, no sense of danger, disruptive, etc.
I was fairly unsure of what was best. In our PA I wrote that we weren't sure what was right for DD1, and we were happy to accept the LA's advice. HOWEVER we could not send DD1 to MS school unless she had dedicated 1:1 support from the minute she stepped into school until the minute I took custody of her at the end of the day, including break times, lunch times, etc. Her OT report specified that she would need constant supervision at break and lunch times, and was unable to avoid collisions.
The LA had a choice. They could send her to MS, which would cost around £4000, plus a TA for 32.5 hours per week which would cost around £10000. Or, they could send her to Special school which costs around £30000 per year plus transport. They chose SS.
For DD1 it is amazing. At preschool, she stuck out like a sore thumb, meltdowns daily, etc. At SS she is normal. She is actually one of the more able children. She is safe, although they can't protect her from herself, so she still falls and trips and misjudges things. She doesn't have 1:1. She is in a class of 10, with 4 staff, but because the environment is safe, no access to bathroom unaccompanied, no way of getting out of the classroom without permission, etc., she is free. Anywhere she can get to is safe. The grounds are spacious, they use Makaton which breaks through her inattention well. Wherever she goes, they all treat her the same. No inconsistency.
Sorry to ramble. Just think carefully, visit different placements, so that you know what you want.