Anyone struggling with no direct contact with teaching staff?

[Lougle]

DD1 came home from SS today. She is 10 miles away, so goes by mini-bus. We have a home-school book, but I am finding it tricky to work out what I am meant to write in it, and whether I am being too trivial.

Today DD1 suddenly started sobbing and said "Why everyone get new things and I not?" I said "what new things, DD1?", and she said "Toys".

I remembered that I was asked for £1.50 to join the Toy Library, which runs on the 1st and 3rd Weds of each month. I took the money in on the very first day DD was at the school, and the teacher thanked me.

DD1 gets very confused and muddled, and can't say what she wants to say.

She said "everyone just selfish, then teacher say no to me, then we have chat"

I couldn't get out of her whether she

a) refused to pick a toy
b) wasn't allowed to choose a toy (why?)
c) only some children can choose from each class on a rota
d) something else.

I have written a note in her book, to ask, as DD was crying about it.

I have also written a note which I paperclipped to the front of the home-school book, explaining that I'm very grateful for her SS place, I am used to being able to have a quick chat with her 1:1 each day to resolve these things, and I'm not used to the home-school book, so I'm not sure if I am writing the right stuff in it, so please bear with me

Have I done the right thing? I was in tears earlier because I couldn't understand what DD was saying, and I was so sad that she didn't have a toy to bring home, knowing that this is it for 2 weeks now

Lougle, i'm sorry you had a moment over this.
If you feel uneasy and a bit awkward with this new method that is the comm.book, it's perfectly fine to have written a note explaining to the teacher.
It's so difficult at times to handle these communication problems with our dc.

I can join you in this communication book prob, although for my case i can talk it through if needed the next day which helps a bit, but by then it's often too late.
DS isn't able to answer my questions properly, he either will not say anything, or what he says is hugely confusing or i simply can't understand his speech.
If it is a big issue for him, then he will keep on getting upset over it at home and as i haven't understood what exactly is the problem, it can go round and round like a vicious circle.
I feel somewhat with what to put in the book, and especially how to word it nicely (trying not to get the staff back's up). It sometimes takes me ages to think about how to word it best. It is a pain tbh.

Hi Lougle
Very upsetting. Is there any possibility for you to arrange a regular phone call (?weekly) with the staff, to get more info on her week?

Hope you can get the school to help you with this. Worth asking them, anyway. Keep writing whatever you feel appropriate in the book - that's what it is there for, I would think.

Thank you both, I feel much better just knowing people understand.

I'm not sure if they would want to do a weekly phone call DD1 is actually one of the most verbal in her YR/Y1 class. But this brings more issues in lots of ways, because she can say just enough to show there's a problem, and not enough to explain

Well, quite: so you need to know the context to help develop what she does say to you, and to interpret it correctly.

Am having similar issues, but am on hand to quiz the staff. It all seems like Chinese Whispers, though.

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Lougle

Understant what your going through totaly .never sure if to write one line or more I oftern get one or two lines in the book eg Ds soiled clothes in bag or ds shoes hurt

but it's like today I'm like hmm do I feeds back what wS said by orthtics or leave it as they do very little about pd there as it's speech unit ?.Though to be fair there trying to get addtional funding to cover how his pd affecting them

on Friday teacher does letter covering each subject and highlights the releveng bits for each child so fi x out what they done in lessons

DD was very tired this morning, and I decided that I would take her in.

There was no toy library yesterday, so they have no idea what DD1 is talking about

But, they were lovely, said they'd much rather I wrote things in that worried me than sitting at home worrying, and that they'd keep a close eye on DD during the day.

That's good. Glad they are understanding.