DD2 screaming this moring she doesnt want to go to school...

[lisad123isgoingcrazy]

she wants to go to her special school (she doesnt call it that btw)!
Screamed all the way to state preschool, hope shes ok :(

How did it go lisa?

acording to school she was "fine", but when i got there she was in the home corner alone while rest on carpet

Hmmmm

You know I don't like words like 'fine' it's a bit wishy washy with regard to how she actually was.. But maybe that's just grumpy old me.

I quite agree.

'Fine' often means she wasn't causing us any problems so we didn't rock the boat or look too hard.

Sorry Lisa, don't want to make you feel bad. I just don't want you to be fobbed off.

Keep a diary.

im aware that they are likely just saying it and she isnt fine but isnt causing trouble either iyswim.
LOL my mum sat with the girls the other day and commented "um Jaz is hard work isnt she" welcome to my life.

Im hoping they might forget about CDAC after half term and not turn up otherwise might be a fight for a dx again.

What's CDAC?

child development assessment clinic

Is it that you're hoping that the pre-school staff forget to come to a meeting which is part of the dx process?

I do worry at times how much weight the opinion of these people is given, especially when it conflicts with parents' opinions. Although many Early Years practitioners are well qualified it is by no means all and they could very easily be missing important signs through lack of knowledge and experience. Nobody seems to question this.

You could ask them to share their focused observations with you because they will obviously be doing lots won't they?

yes Al1son, but only as i know the specialist preschool are coming and i know whatever they see is correct and done right.

I also have a friend who might be coming with me, shes a community nursery nurse for the health team and they know my previous job so think they are a little easier on me because i know what im talking about. BUT your right I was told they could give a dx the first time round as they wanted a preschool to see her, even with me, snhv and SALT all saying same stuff.

Well just make sure you share what you see on pick up because that's very relevant too. Can you pop in early now and then so you can see what's happening at other times too?

I do and everytime I go she playing alone somewhere or standing in the story corner banging the cuoboards.

This kind of hanging around not being a nuisance but not learning anything was my big worry for dd2 when she started in mainstream. However, the school has got sorted now, they have set up several different ten minute activities for dd that she does throughout the day. She is rewarded after each one, sometimes with a toy, song, game or even a play outside and they use sand timers so she knows how long she has got left. Could you suggest this? They could start with 3 or 5 minutes and build up the time.

Well that says it all then Lisa. She's not fine at all is she?

They don't sound like they'd be bothered to try to find a way to engage her but it might be worth a try.

I seriously would ask to see copies of their focused obs. If they've done any they could be evidence for you and if they haven't it'll put a rocket under them and they might realise what's going on with her.