son hissing at people when they come near him

[mrshess]

Has anyone had experience of their child hissing and putting their hands up in an aggressive way when someone comes too close to them?

Brief background recently went through autsim asssessment but not enough evidence to diagnose and they think he is just naughty and we have spoilt him.
But his behaviour is getting more and more out of control with other people and i feel like staying in everyday as i cant cope with him going to nursery and hissing at children who come near him or eventually trying to kick them away. Its as if he is warning them to stay away from his space and he sort of hisses then spits and holds his hands aggressively as if he will scratch them.I cant ignore his behaviour as queing up for nursery he does this and he eventually will kick whoever gets too close too him.

I have run out of ideas and honestly feel like giving up as he does this in school as well when we are not there.

Any ideas would be appreciated

Sounds like he just wants his own space - fair enough! Is he verbal? If his understanding is good enough, you could try teaching him to say "I don't like that", "please can you leave me alone" or something similar.

If you're not happy with the assessment ask for a further one. At least to be given strategies and support - even without a diagnosis you should fight for this, as it sounds like you're struggling. How old is he? I've heard some LAs don't like to diagnose until 3 at the earliest - if he's younger than this or around this age, you could definitely ask for a re-assessment in, say, 6 months time.