Basically I wrote this letter to sons teacher after parents evening. They sent son out of school with his trousers on back to from and inside out again. When I explained this the teachers (job share) they said "thats not too bad, its a boy thing". My son has significant dyspraxia as well as ASD and ADD.. Also it turned out that he hadn't actually done PE because his classmates were being noisy so they had had to get changed back into their normal clothes again and that someone had come in to assess his literacy skills so ds had to rush.
Anyway my son has also been having a lot of heavy nosebleeds (looks like someone has attacked him pool of blood all over home type ones) at night. So I decided to send a book in to communicate this with them. Did they read this - did they heck as like and the next day I had a "injured head" note in his bag!
Then we started to discuss his soiling issues. I had written in the book about them and how he was seeing a medical paediatrician and on medication. Again they hadn't read the book and despite being very clear that they communicated well between each other the first teacher had not told the second teacher of a soling incident that took place in school earlier in the week.
So basically they are not really "understanding the issues".
They seem to think a termly info letter about class activities and a weekly 5 min chat will be enough and they don't need a book to communicate with us.
My son has a lack of awareness and basically goes round with a great big smile on his face and doesn't understand when people are being mean to him. He also is a rule follower at school and very quiet so not a problem to his teachers.
Anyway his teachers have refused to consider using a communication book to help facilitate our communication at home with him and don't seem to understand that if there is a change to school routine that we have a harder time with him then we would usually when he gets home.
So I have been called in for a meeting to discuss this letter with them and and the "points" on it. Can anyone help me to back my points up? Also they never tell me when professionals go in to see him - surely I have a basic right to this info?
Letter
"It was lovely to meet you at Parents evening last night and to hear how well ds is doing academically, thank you.
ds came home without his school jumper yesterday. We presume because of the rush when he had to get changed? It does have his name in and we would be grateful if he would come home with it tonight.
Also ds had quite a few tantrums after school, before the parents meeting last night; it is possible that this may be due to the change in routine at school in regard to not actually doing PE despite getting changed for it.
It would be helpful if we could be notified of any changes in school routine on the day that these changes occur.
We would also like you to notify us if any outside agencies come into school to assess or work with ds and inform us of their names and what profession they are on the day that they come into school to do so.
ds has a speech therapy appointment on Monday the 18th October and will not be in school until Monday afternoon
As we have to get home for dd (ds's oldest sister) after collecting the boys from school we don?t have time after school to discuss any issues, hence one of our reasons for the suggestion of a communication book.
However we are more than willing to write informal letters as an alternative with you when we can?t make it into school for a chat, although a communication book as used last year would be preferable. This would also enable us to help develop ds?s communication skills as he still does not communicate his daily activities at school with us.
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TIA