You know when school see no problems....

[TheArsenicCupCake]

Well weirdly and strangely we are seemingly have this the otherway round from the norm ( ds always has to be different!)

we at home have got things almost under control behaviour wise.. Yes we are constantly on the ball with statagies.. and yes we still have bad moments .. Actually most days.. But .. ds is begining to be able to express himself a bit better and so this makes this a bit easier.

However!!! school is a completely different story.. He is no longer waiting till he gets home to 'blow' .. He's doing it right there.. He is not communicating effectively with people... He has been very rude to staff ..( actually I think he is litterally just saying what is in his head.. And they are taking him tbe wrong way).
we know he is still being bullied.. Yet he also doesn't have a halo himself. Etc etc

so do we have more chance of getting a statement because it's school that aren't basically coping with him... Even though they are actually trying! ( to a point).. Basically ds needs, SALT input, OT input,asd behavioural support ( for at school).. And TA time .. Bloody 1-1 TA time!
( he is dyslexic and os about 5 years behind in writing!)..
So from what I can tell.. Ds isn't getting the support.. And thus everything goes wrong..

I'll stop wittering on .. gahhhhh

i would say if there seeing his behaviou in school now that its more infor for your staement

Yes statement time!

brill .. I'm seeing EP in a couple of weeks along with senco so I'll get the ball moving!

It took us ages to realize that DS had Aspergers - because we saw no problems at home - yet school kept on complaining about his behaviour (similar to your description)

One thing a very wise Mum said to me was that a difference in behaviour between school and home was worrying.

After a year of listening to school and thinking my son was the problem rather than the thinking that school was the problem I finally listened to the very wise Mum and moved school.

In the new school there are no behaviour problems at school or at home ( however of course there is still ASD related behaviours - which are fine if managed properly )

I'm going to sound evil but in school theya re paid to help your son so it's a goof thing overall. They have access to resources you do not at home so can deal with it better.

IME, it swings with ds between home and school as worst place- atm his TA means its home. It will revert I am sure.

Yup we seem to swing a bit too.. But where you have your TA at school we had our behavioural therapist at home :o

indigo.. Ds for completely weird and unconnected reasons has to stay at that school for a few more months.. ( partly whislt I battle to get him into the school that is asd friendly and has been totally recommended to us by various outside agencies.. Just got to get the LEA to see it our way..)