sad and distressed

[sparky159]

im having a really horrible night-please help
my daugher has auitism and tourrettes-
its her birthday tommorrow-
and she has got really stressed out-
she is ticing really badly tonight-
the worst i have ever seen-
she s jumping all over the place-sounds like shes choking-swearing-and spitting badly-
this has been going on for the last nearly nine hours-
i have tried everything i know to try and calm her down-this hasnt worked-
she is also complaining about absouloutly everything-being aggressive-and attacking me.
i havent seen her this bad for ages-
please help-im crying my eyes out-
im scared as shes freaking me out as ive always known what to do with her before-this aint working.
gotta go-she is now wrecking everything and screeming the place down -im in bits -drained and dont know what to do with her.

How old is she? Is she under the care of CAMHS? If so, and nothing that you usually do will calm her down, you should ring CAMHS and see if they have anyone on night-cover to ask for advice.
If there is noone, and she is totally out of control, ring your out of hours GP and insist someone comes out to see her-explain how volatile she is.
Get her an emergency appoint. with her Psych./Paed. asap, and ask, if there is any medication you can keep at home, if such a situation arises again.
Try to keep calm-is there anyone who can help-where is your dh?
I know how distressing this is, have been there with my ds- ADHD/AS. Had to get GP out to see him, and now have some Medic. at home for when he becomes very volatile.
If you want to keep posting, Ill be here for a while, so you are not alone. In anycase, let us know how you get on, when you have tome. HTH.

thanks bigpants-
she has now calmed down a bit-she s stopped atacking me-
but is still chucking everything about-shouting-ticing and swearing-
im shaking like a leaf-and feel like ive got rigomotoris.
yep-she is under chams-and no-theres no one around this time of night-
i have no faith in the system-so i will try and get a couple of hours sleep maybe soon maybe not-and start again.
i havent got a Dh-im on my own.
shes freaked out because of her birthday-
most kids like this-this causes her stress-hence tonight-
oh i cant wait till christmas[grim joke]

My ds is like this also. Its hard for people to understand isnt it, that even nice, fun events like holidays, birthdays, xmas, can cause such stress and upset to our dc. My ds is 14.5 and xmas still makes him act like a toddler. Sigh!
Just a thought, have you ever considered videoing your dd when like this and showing her Psych just what you are contending with, and if there is anything he can do to help?
Another one here with very little faith in the system-a loooong story.
How old is your dd? Do you have any respite-outside agency support?
Keep posting, if you cant sleep.

Sparky, hope you did get some sleep and you can get in touch with someone, today for some advice and actual help.

DS1 gets like this before big events or changes in routine, also, although he's only 6. All the same, I already know the shellshocked feeling you're describing all too well. I'm in that feeling now - have had a horrendous 24 hours or so with him and I'm still reeling at him saying he wants to kill DS2 :(

Hoping that, after all the angst, it is a happy birthday for your DD.

Hope you are alright sparky? I know its hard take care of yourself today!

thankyou everyone-
my daughter finnally dropped off to sleep last night but i ended up only having 1 hours sleep-so when she went to school
i was so drained that i went back to bed.
ive just got up[bad i know]and im just trying to wake myself up-
ill be back in a while to answer youre posts.
i didnt want anyone to think that i asked for advice and walked away.
yep Wasuup-im alright[thankyou]

Nothing bad about catching up on the sleep you need. Looking after yourself is important.