Absolutely fuming!!!

[StrawberryFruitBat]

Paed assessment on Monday part for as things, part for dd1 appalling handwriting.

Turns out she has a hypermobile index finger and therefore grabs the pen with her fist. Easily fixed... pen grip things, reteach her to write, problem solved. Told her teacher what was needed.

she's come home today... her teacher has decided apparently she doesn't need the grip things after all as the teacher had her using them this morning and her writing was worse. WTF!?!? They have already ignored me for years saying she can't write properly, and now they know better than the doctor.

Of course it Will take time!! This is a seven year old who has been holding a pen wrong since reception!!!! She needs to be TAUGHT to write.

It is partly my fault for not realising the problem but she is my first and i didn't know what was wrong.

It is not your fault. How were you meant to know that her writing was not 'age appropriate'.

You are quite right to be absolutely fuming. Can you talk to her teacher tomorrow before school and let her know this is totally not appropriate and you absolutely expect the teacher to follow the paed's recommendations?

How is your fault? These people are paid for their expertise in this area. Your job is simply to raise a happy well-balanced dd and it sounds like you're doing a fine job of that.

Thank you. i feel like it is my fault for not noticing that she has been holding a pen wrong fir years. :( I just figured it was like how left handed people hold it differently then other people must too.

Going to ask to see dep head in the morning. She is senco. Have had a whole list of issues with this teacher. trying to decide if i should just throw a tantrum for her to change class. The other class is more disruptive but has an excellent teacher.

Strawberry It is absolutely not your fault.Don't beat yourself up about it.Like others have said it is more something the school should have picked up on sooner.

Good luck with the dep head.The teacher needs to be reported how can she possibly think she knows better and after just one day

Ds1s teacher lost him again for the second time today.He bolts from the classroom and she somehow always misses him.So there is me standing like an idiot for 10 mins for ds1 to come out of class then his teacher realising he isn't in the class.Then a 15 minute search for him.Eventually found him in the older years playground.

Now wheres that wine you were talking about.

For some older children it can be really hard to get them to use the grips and get used to it (speaking from experience) so they need to bloody well try for a while and persist with her! poor thing.

Exactly Maxy. Especially for a girl mildly on the spectrum who avoids change at all costs!

Blimy strawberry, your Dd sounds similar to mine, she is also a leftie and holds to pencil really badly. She was fine in reception because she had a lefthanded teacher but it's been down hill since then. I complained in year 1, nothing changed, I complained in year 2 nothing changed. I have tried over the summer to change her pencil grip, but to no avail she has gone straight back to the old way and she was doing well to. IME teachers don't even know what you are talking about, I am tearing my hair out because there are so many other things going on with school a the moment I can't bring myself to complain about her writing again.
Dd3 is using a leftie pencil with grips on it through choice at the moment but she still manages to hold the wood right by the lead. I have come to the conclusion that her teacher is either not seeing or not wanting to see what is going on in her classroom.
I think you will probably have to throw a tantrum to get anything done, but good luck.

Strawberry I agree with Ineed2 a tantrum from you is probably what's needed.Teachers aren't educated on all the special needs so many have absolutely no idea and often need you to inform them.Unfortunately this can mean having to be rather abrupt with them as they often still think they know best.

Strawberry... just out of interest does your Dd have a diagnosis?? We are trying really hard to get something sorted for DD3, who has many asd traits but we are finding it difiicult without a dx. No one will take us seriously, except the salt bless her who is trying really hard. It seems the services in our area are crumbling after 1 pead left the area and another retired in the space of 3 months.

Strawberry - totally not your fault. Go speak to them tomorrow - good luck

Nope. Paed is v much of the opinion that unless they are obviously on the spectrum then it is just children being quirky .

hmmm, the one we saw who has left said she couldn't decide about Dd3 and wanted to "sit on the fence for a bit longer". Dd3 is 8 now in key stage 2 and her problems are becoming more noticable every day, how long do they think we should wait I wonder. We are 3 months overdue an appointment!! So I guess we wait.
I hope you have some success getting your DD's writing sorted. I am going to have to face that battle to.

So it seems to be more a case of dd1 being a stubborn brat...

What makes you say that strawberry??

I often wonder about the difference between spoilt child and child with difficulties but when I gather together all the evidence I have on Dd3's "quirks" I think it is reasonabe to asume that she has some very real difficulties and that I am doing the right thing persuing a dx.
In your first post you said your Dd had a hypermobile joint... that doesnt make her a spoilt brat it is a very real issue which is affecting her writing.

Ah yes she does have a problem and need help but having spoken to her teacher it seems that she announced that they didn't work so she wasn't using them rather than her teacher telling her not to bother.

meeting tomorrow with her there as well to help her understand why she needs to use them etc and how to teach her to learn to write again.

Oh ok. I see, it could be that she doesn't want to appear diffierent to others in the class, there is nothing a 7 year old girl hates more that appearing to be different.Believe me I know I have had 3.lol.
I feel really sorry for both of you that it has gone this far, the school has failed your Dd in terms of her handwriting and it is going to be a long hard battle to put it right. I have no advice for you I am afraid as I am just about to start this battle for myself and Dd3. What I will say is I know I have a difficult journey in front of me because my Dd3 is perfect has no difficulties and refuses to take advice from anyone..
Goo luck with your meeting.