Oh Dad!! Part 2

[missworld2010]

This morning my Dad tried to say in his own special way that he thought all children with ASD could be taught to behave/conform, it's just that no-one is going about it the right way. Not that he has the answer mind you. Then he started likening it to dog training, at which point I really did have to leave the table and almost laugh or I would have cried!

Bless him, I know what he was trying to say, and it wasn't that it's my fault, but he really doesn't 'get' it.... but how could he, he's never lived with it! As they live 4 hours away, it's not even like they're here very often - probably just as well

Maybe he would like to have your ds for a few weeks, then hand him back to you all cured

couldnt believe it when you told me that this morning, poor you. I agree send DD his way for week, but then i know he'll just let her get away with everything, would nt he??

missworld He certainly didn't approach things the right way. But you do know that ABA is often linked with dog training. In a negative way, to imply that it is something for animals, not humans, but actually, some of the techniques are similar and they certainly do work for children with autism.

It's about rewarding the good behaviour and increasing it, and ignoring the bad behaviour and decreasing it, with quick small steps and very frequesnt rewards etc.

I suspect he is trying to help, has used a tiny bit of knowledge very badly.

agree with stark - what he said came out badly but isn't really that much of an out there suggestion - as if you think about it, techniques for managing behavior that dont rely on good language comprehension are transferrable between species! there's even been a basic behavioural book recommnded by people on here, called Don't Shoot the Dog, which I believe reckons similar strategies to dog training can be used on humans (in general, not just people with SN!)

Sorry, didn't realise you were talking about DD, not DS

My friend is an ASD teacher and says that speaking to ASD children should be similar to speaking to a dog - in as much as it should be clear, slow, no unneccessary words, but as for training .

So looks like you'll have a nice restful couple of weeks while your DF trains your DD

tee hee, thanks all, he was probably thinking along the right lines then! Just words not coming out quite right - ah, now I know where I get it from

He's clearly been talking to my DS1's teacher.