Bittersweet..

[eidsvold]

Dd2 has started talking over the past couple of weeks... first came mama (not pleased about that!), then baba, and then yesterday out of nowhere came dada. She just starts saying these words and whilst we are excited it just brings it home how hard dd1 has to work to get there. Okay dd1 still has more language/signs than dd2 but it does make me feel sad for dd1 having to work so hard to achieve things that just come sooo naturally to dd2.

Anyone else feel like this??

I expect I will in a few months time when DS2 starts doing things.

But, I still think that the joy on DS1's face when he achieves something is in some ways equal to the struggle he has had to get there. He has just started walking, and all 3 of us (DS1, me and DH) are so happy and excited it is just bowling me over at the moment. DH said yesterday that watching me and DS1 running around in the rain yesterday (DS1 holding only loosely onto a small skipping rope handle for security, and letting go intermittently) was just like watching any other child running round splashing in puddles in the rain. And DS1 had a big grin on his face the whole time, and was sqealing with delight, and looking at me to see how pleased I was with him.

Bittersweet, yes, but maybe any of these little milestones for either child would mean less if things were different.

Yes eidsvold- all the time. It's worse when they overtake- now ds2 is lightyears ahead it's less bittersweet- but I guess (hope I guess) that I'll go through it again with ds3!

It's one of reasons I'm relieved I never conceived quickly after dd was born, as child born within 18 mths of her would liely have overtaken her in several weighs [grin} freudian slip - she's tiny at age 3.
I think it's sad at times, but sometimes the harder the achievement is to come by, the more you celebrate it....
What is easy for most kids can be hard for some of ours and as a rule I find myself more agog with dd's milestones than I was with ds's (who was 1st to do everything in the book and still is today at 11)
Bittersweet, but mostly sweet, with a slight moment of sadness from time to time for sure...

Yes, my 2.5 year old is ahead of my 10 year old

It gets easier again Davros- suddenly they're so far ahead its irrelevant. (and they become good spys and tell you when their siblings are doing dangerous things)

DD is already a grasser!

Useful- especially when you can say "go and tell me where ds1 is" (saves the legs- we have 5 stories)

Yes - we do celebrate dd1's achievements - if you could have seen us when dd1 walked - you would have thought we had gone mad...... and we still love watching her walk/run around with her friends, cousins etc. My favourite part is when dd1 comes up and wraps her arms around our legs and gives us kisses. Each goal achieved is a major victory. I just hope because it is sooo 'easy' for dd2 that I don't become blase about her achievements.

ds is a supergrass aswell

mmm at the moment dd1 is the grass - looking for dd2 to see if she is getting into anything she shouldn't. Am sure the time will come when it will be the other way round!