Help With Ds bad behaviour ASD

[BeauticianNotMagician]

Hi All That is it really just wondered if anyone can give me any tips on how to deal with ds1s behaviour.His autism seems to have got much worse recently.I'm thinking this is probably due to going up to year one at school.He is hitting his brother constantly and has now started hitting the children at his school.He shouts at me all the time and no matter what i ask him he screams 'I DON'T KNOW STOP TALKING ME'.I really don't know what to do bribery used to work but no longer is and if i put him in time out he will come straight out of it and carry on with the bad behaviour.

With my DS, we tend to take off anything that he likes, for example, he likes his piano or playing on the computer, so as soon as he hits DD we stop the computer or take away the piano. He gets it back after he apologises to DD, but if he does it again, he does not get it fo good few hours or sometimes the whole day. It works with rewards like letting him play with neighbours dog which he absolutely loves and he knows he will get to play with it if he behaves at home. Yes, DS tends to push DD more after he comes home from school. We normally keep her away from him when he is back him just to give him time to cool down. Otherwise, we use the same tecniche of taking away things that he is playing with at the time.

Thanks tiredmummyoftwo I will try that.He is computer obsessed so i will take that away in future.We live in a flat at the moment and i think he would cope better if he could burn off his energy in a garden.

Sounds like school may be absolutely exhausting him.

Might be worth asking the school if they can do a quick checklist of the classroom:
Is he under any flickering failing fluorescent lighting? Often the ends of the bulbs start to flicker first. Often we can see this more like being under a strobe light - really difficult to concentrate.

Is he near computers or other technology that are on all the time, and making a whirring noise? Again, this is hugely loud to many of us.

Is he given the chance to go somewhere quiet if he absolutely needs to, and given proper quiet breaks during the day to 'cool down' his brain wiring? we need this desperately. Playground time is no use at all for us - it needs to be really quiet silent space for a while.

Plenty of other stuff, but those things can make a big difference to how tired we get at school and how much we can then handle when we get home.

If none of that makes a difference to his home behaviour, then it definitely needs a bit of specialist thinking and more of the splendid tips from people here.

Starlight that worked.He does have a thing at the moment where everything is going in his mouth especially really small toys.So i may take them all away rather than trying to tell him to stop.

Amber Thank You I didnt think of any of those things.I actually have his parents evening this week so i will take your list along with me.Him hitting out at school is something so new as has always been fine.I've had issues with him hitting his brother before but at 17 months apart a lot of that is bound to be just good old sibling rivalry.