ds with aspergers got invited to a birthday party!

[christie1]

Its the small victories! All year kids had parties and didn't invite ds as he doesn't talk much to his schoolmates but he did like one kid alot who played with him a bit then moved on. DS was devastated. Anyway, same kid invited him to his party this summer and to see his face light up when I told him. I know everyone in his class got invited but it didn't matter, ds got to go to his first birthday party and he was pleased as punch! The challenges of making friends is always going to be difficult for him but just for a few hours, he was one of the gang. I don't know who beamed more.

so pleased for you and ds

that is just grand

That's great. I've got a ds with ASD and I can just imagine how dead chuffed you both must have been. Did he enjoy himself? Did you stay with him at the party?

Arh, thats lovely!

I am so made up for you and him!

Christie, thats wonderful - I've filled up

That's lovely

Twice during the summer holidays we have had phone calls from mums asking ds2 over to play at their house (ds2 has cerebral palsy). Then they suddenly realised they meant the other boy in his class who has the same name,, and bizarrely his mum has the same first name as me apparently, so they said sorry wrong child and hung up.

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for Lou - How can someone do that to a child??? I know he wasn't on the phone to them, but its just so cruel anyway... Can you imagine calling a person up for a night out, and then saying "I meant my other mate Louise, you can't come"

christie1, really pleased for you and ds, lou33 that's just horrid.

It wasn't nice, but at least ds2 was not aware of it.

Christie1,

So pleased for you and DS too.

Lou33 and for you - those Mums ought to be thoroughly ashamed of themselves. Shockingly awful behaviour on their part. If your DS was in my son's class I would be only too glad to share your company.

I think we just have to get used to the fact that is how people are, though it's not right. One woman proferred her phone number to dh in the summer, saying ds2 shoud get together with her ds, basically because her ds has a speech problem, and as they were both sn it would stop her son being made fun of.

Posh surrey mums, don't you just love them?

Aww christie...brought tears to my eyes.
Hope he had a lovely time

really pleased for you and your ds christie.
lou im , how insensitive and tactless

Chrisite - thats just lovely

Lou - what nasty cows and

I didn't stay at the party. He said he had a really good time and seemed to enjoy himself. When I picked him up he and the birthday boy were playing with his presents. It was just such a great day.

Sorry Lou, I had a similar experience when my ds was 4. He has a five year old sister and the boy downstairs, also 5 would come up and play. One day his mom called and asked if dd could come down, I said she was out but ds could come. I could hear them discussing it in the background then she comes on and says No, thats ok but her son says no. I was shocked at the rudeness plus not expecting it, my ds was right there so I had to make up a story to explain why he couldnt' go.

She came to my door and with her son one other time and did it again asking for dd but not ds and I explained that my ds considered her son his friend too as they were all close in age and it hurt him not to be invited so if both were not included in the invitation I would have to say no. She never invited either of my kids again but no loss to us really.

I'm so glad he had a wonderful time Christie.

at that Lou - I guess posh doesn't equate with good manners.

Christie - glad he had a good time.