Will the sadness go away?

[Lougle]

DD1 is verbal. More verbal than most of her classmates. But when she comes home she doesn't speak. At all. Her sister said hello to her very excitedly, but she just grunted. I think she is exhausted. If I ask about school she just makes a moaning sound, or says 'it secret'.

Today I went to the AGM of the Friends of and one of the senior teachers told me a couple of things.

Yesterday, they had PeterPan puppet show from a production company. Apparently, DD1 stood up, and shouted at Captain Hook that he was a big bully, a meany and he was very naughty!! It is so DD1. It made me laugh and laugh, and the teacher said that the actor ad-libbed with DD1 for a while, which was even funnier.

Also, she had been walking along a sleeper holding the teacher's hand, and the teacher finally had to stop, and DD1 wasn't at all impressed - she grunted at the teacher and stamped her foot! The teacher had to say 'sorry, but I do have to play with other children too' - again so DD1.

I was so pleased to hear that they are seeing a bit of the DD1 I know. But I am so , deep down, I ache. Because DD1 can't tell me any of it. I don't hear a thing.

Does it get better?

that was lovely Silver :) She's fabulous!

agree with saker about a mix of comments and questions. DS was similar at this age, it will improve with time.

Star - no, no children (I think on previous years they have asked that you put a video compilation together to introduce your child) - I was just being silly re: small group interaction.

the whole set up (from reading about previous years) is quite interactive and hands-on - lots of getting to the root of what your (one's) individual issues are and discussing ways forward.

I'm really looking forward to it - I love the fact they are completely open about approaches, and will happily look at anything that may work for your child (especially biomed stuff - it really works for dd1, but can I get mainstream support?!)

Oh it is lovely to see your DD in the flesh after hearing so much about her . Her speech is brilliant - DS2's has stalled again after a burst pre-summer when he started singing whole songs and using an 'I want' sentence. Well not stalled so much as gone back to single words .

Growing Minds is a fantastic course. What I loved about it was the positive way Steven and Kaitryn look at ASD - I came away inspired and confident, when I had started the week gloomy and muddled! We did the distance training afterwards with them, which I can also recommend.

lougle
my daughter doesnt mention her day at school
its a bit like-once school has finished it doesnt exist no more.

funny enough though-she does run in and gleefully tell me whos been told off at school sometimes though!

my daughter isnt tired when she comes home[groan]so i give her time to settle a bit then i ask her questions.
i have some set questions like-
did you play with anyone today-ifso who-
what did you play-
what was the good things about today
what was the bad things about today.
i then have a rough idea about whats going on in school and what her day was like.

i can understand what you mean about the sadness-i used to feel like this.
but the sadness has gone-i just see it as a diffrent way of being nowdays

I get a lot less feedback re school from dd (prob NT but young in year, shy & overactive imagination) than I ever did from ds (can't shut up & doesn't have skills to refuse to answer or make stuff up). But it is sad when they can't tell you stuff, rather than just don't want to, and no-one else thinks it's important go let you know.