advice on potty training 3.7 ds with speech delay

[joeyjog]

Hi,my ds is 3.7 years old and had speech delay.I have been trying to potty train him scince march but with no success,he will sit on the toilet but wont actually do anything,ive tried sticker charts,rewards and made the toilet fun by putting up fun pictures ect hes happy to sit on the toilet but nothing happens he seems to hold it most of the day and then the flood gates open in the afternoon.I spent most of sunday taking him to the toilet in the hope that i might get him on the toilet at the golden moment but nothing,then as soon as my back was turned woosh pee everywhere.
I dont get angry with him when he has an accident but tell him that he needs to try and do it on the toilet next time.Any advice would be most welcome.

Sounds like he needs more time to me. We couldn't do our lad (speech and lang problems, amongst other things) until he was 4.

Give him a while, take the pressure off.

We used the little princess book 'I Want My Potty!'. Then lots of 'your such a clever big girl'...about lots of other stuff! Took the emphasis away from the toilet but continued with regular drinks/toilet trips and changed accidents quickly with no fuss at all.

....amongst many other attempts! But as they say..'they do it when they are ready!'..

x post spinkle...sorry

Great minds think alike Wooly!

Just to commiserate really. DS1 is 3.10, non-verbal ASD, and I feel we are no closer than we were a year ago. Have tried a couple of times but clearly wasn't ready. Most recent attempt was disastrous. From a boy who would wear pants and sit on the toilet (although wouldn't do anything) and would request a nappy when needed a wee, I have managed to make him resist pants ferociously and mainly refuse to sit on loo. :( and totally blame myself for this.

You sound like you've miles more patience than me. Sorry no advice but sending lots of good luck and let me know the trick when you crack it.

I started with a potty chair for dd2 ASD, no speech (aged 4) at the time.We put her in pants and then watched her like a hawk for two weeks. It was v tough initially and I nearly gave up. I put her on the potty every 15-20 mins or so to start with and tried to spot the signs that she wanted to go. (she did a little jig!) It was very hard and she cried a lot but eventually managed to get her to potty in time. Went mad with joy and gave her v desirable peppa pig figures as rewards. This did eventually work and she started to hold herself until she was taken to the potty at regular intervals. One day she just totally amazed me by taking herself. Then after a few months we moved her to the toilet... She is very reliable now in day time. Still wears pull ups at night. We also haven't yet sorted pooing on toilet! good luck, I really think you need help. I had help with the watching her, taking her to the potty by my daughters ABA tutors as otherwise I couldn't have done it. I was ready to give up on day three.

Thanks all,weve had a good day today ds actually asked "go toilet" which to me is pretty amazing! feeling a bit more positive today so will keep trying.