ffs had enough now Grandparents wont accept it

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i'm really struggling right now and feel so alone to top it off my parents wont accept anything wrong with ds (paed, salt, pre school, old nursery and myself all think he is autistic/adhd. My parents wont accept it and think am doing wrong thing by trying to get official diagnosis and thus open up funding which will no doubt be a battle. They think a label will have him 'labelled' and don't want him attending anything other than mainstream as he's ''too bright.'' ffs yes in a cognitive way but he has a huge communication and interaction disorder. i've had enough if i didn't love ds so much i'd be gone by now so low. i wish i could wave a magic wand and make everything be ok but i cant. am a single mum (ds dad a waste of space) so he only has me to fight for him. i know they love him greatly and its tough on them but so is it on me, cant sleep etc.. feel so depressed. wish someonee could give me a hug and be there for me for once.
sorry to moan its all i seem to do.

I can't help but

Really sorry to hear life so shitty... carers centre have funded some counselling for me, think its helping. (My parents ok, but DMiL really struggled with ds being 'not ok' she has really taken time to come to terms, but I knew I couldn't manage her feelings as well as my own, so had to leave her to it, and she has got head round it, especially after dx, (as she is of generation that believes Drs!)

Hope things improve..

sending a very large virtual hug. My mum is exactly the same about my DS. She doesn't phone often, but the last couple of times she has, it has been to tell me that their is nothing wrong with DS, and that she was very quiet at school, never talking to anybody. As to hiding under a table in school when things change, well obviously she would never have dared. She just doesn't get that DS would still do it even if the school were into corporal punishment. She just doesn't get why I could possibly want to get him labelled.
We stayed there in the holiday and I was talking to my sister about him - she is trained as a SALT and agrees something is up with him. Anyhow, Mum spent whole conversation saying "No 8 year old gets sarcasm, all of them are still only understanding stuff literally at that age", then spent rest of week telling him about sarcasm. All I get now is "Do you mean that or are you being sartastic [sic]".
Oops, sorry that was meant to be a commiserating post and it turned into a rant. You are not alone :(

My mum was resistant too. He was just 'spoilt'.

Time wore on and she could deny it no longer.

I explained the diagnosis was just a 'signpost' for others in their expectations of him.

He's HFA (high functioning austistic) and adhd, attends a mainstream school, is horribly horribly bright is some areas and not in others.

In other words, a kid; my son, who I am in awe of and am very proud of.

They will come round - but ASD is such a massive thing, they may not be ready to take it on yet. But they will.

((hugs))

Someone posted an article written for grandparents the other day. Can't remember who but someone will be along in a minute I expect who will remember.
It took 15 years for my mum to accept that Dd1 has issues, so theres time for you yet.