Why do i bother even with family...they are as unsupportive as can be!

[genieinabottle]

Major rant coming on...

Every time i get off the phone from my sister, i'm peeved!!
We spend a good 20 minutes talking about the coming appointment she has for her 7 m old DS who has a majorly flat head but it's falt not straight at the back, it's to the side left at the back, and it's lumpy on the opposite side at the front. She has to see a paed who specialises in head problems.
So she is worried about it. Fair enough, and i'm trying to give her support as i know from experience with DS (asd) that taking your child to see professionals is always a worry.

She hasn't asked how my kids were. I told her we are seeing the neuro paed in a couple of weeks, no interest from her.
I told her i felt sad yesterday when DS wasn't able to understand what he had to do at the hearing test with the school nurse.
No reply, just "humm yeah", then she starts again moaning that her 4 y old DS1 (nt) is a pain and never does what he is told and is always answering back,...

Why the feck do i even bother!!

:(

I suppose everyone has problems which are a priority but at least a good listening skills and little support would be lovely...Whenever I start that subject I always get told 'dont worry he will be just fine, look how far he has come'! So I dont bother anymore, just tell them he is fine and keep all the comments to myself

I know how you feel. I rarely speak to my sister now. She just doesn't have a clue how tough things are and isn't really interested. I had a phone call when dd2 was diagnosed ASD saying she was thinking about me. This was two years ago! I sometimes find myself turning phone off to avoid answering the inevitable 'is she talking yet?' it is just depressing.

had a horrible feeling this would be you from seeing the thread title! at least with "friends" you can distance yourself, with family it isn't that easy...I think people do convince themselves that making out your kid is normal is some sort of favour to you.

Thanks, i've calmed down a bit now

I felt cross with myself for letting the phone call get to me, i always say it's the last time and then i let it happen again.

You'd think i'd learn by now. My sister is one of the worst person when it come to getting a bit of support.

I felt so deflated yesterday over that silly hearing test DS didn't manage to do, it was such a slap in the face, plus the stressing over school for the past 3 weeks has taken it out of me. When i woke up this morning i felt like running away somewhere because the ups are hard to come by and the downs are so many if that makes any sense. It's a constant battle to help your child.
And i know everyone on this board knows what it's like to feel like this.

Sorry about ranting, i often feel guilty after posting as some other children have SN more severe and difficult to cope with than my DS, and here i am whining away but no one in family can really understand.

Don't ever feel guilty about posting here. This should be a place for anyone and everyone who is dealing with SN.

By posting here your problems - you give courage and hope to everyone else who is facing similair problems to you.