Wondering if I should throw the towel in with this school??

[Ineed2]

I have been on here quite a lot lately talking/moaning about Dd3's school. I have always said that I don't want to move her but I am becoming more convinced that the school is just generally rubbish with sp needs, the HT refuses to take me seriously and now we have a very young but cocky new teacher to deal with.
Dd3 doesn't want to go to school most days and when she is there she only has a couple of friends.
I spent sometime last night researching another local school which recently got an outstanding from ofsted, who raved about how happy and caring the children were.
The school website is fab and says alot about chldren being given many opprtunites other than academic.
I think I might go and have a look at it.
I just don't know what to do.
If anyone has moved their [poss]asd child to another school, did you talk to them about it first? Or just make the decision for them?

I feel like I'm in the same boat at the moment! I would go at look at other schools,explain your dd's difficulties and see how they come across. Don't always rely on Ofsted report though - my ds needs counselling after the way he was treated at 'outstanding' school. At the end of the day it's your dd's health that matters. My ds is getting stressed every day now about going into school and I don't want to keep putting him through it.

It depends on the friends situation.
When J first started at the junior school, it was dreadful - so anti-inclusion, wanted him out.I was being called in all the time.

But I wouldn't move him because he had friends. The school learned to listen to me and to the other outside agencies; they learned to persevere with J and now the school are very good and positive with him.

Had J not had friends, I would have moved him like a shot.

Thanx fighting ... I think I will go and talk to the HT at the other school and have alook around, I will be up front about Dd3 and her quirks. I know ofsted can be misleading, the school she is in now is outstanding but it seems that it is for different reasons. Inclusion is mentioned and how supportive the other children are with children with sp needs.

Givemesome... Thats how I feel although she does only have one friend at the moment, her other one has drifted off lately, I think she is cheesed off with playing the same game every day. I have concerns that the current HT is very bad at listening to parents, she is not one herself and has no idea what it is like to live with kids. She does not in anyway beleive that her school is the route of much of Dd3's stress.
I moved Dd1 twice, I was young and inexperienced, I always said I wouldn't move Dd2 or 3 but I am reaching the end of my rope with this HT.

I spent a year deliberating over the move because I stupidly did ask my 8 year old ASD son - and he really didn't want to move.

Then eventually when problems started with his sister as well I finally realised it wasn't my son, as school had been saying, it was the school.

First thing he said when I picked him up from his new school was "You were right to move me" - followed by - "Mum, you won't believe it - the kids don't muck around in class!"

Now, I regret so much not moving them a year ago when school first started complaining about his behaviour. (New school have not complained once about his behaviour - because he doesn't have behaviour problems - he has ASD)

Hmmm. thanx indigo, as I said I moved Dd1 twice, the first move was a mistake but the second was good, great HT who made sure staff met her needs brilliantly. Sadly he was head hunted and we got landed with the one we have got now. I have never really seen eye to eye with her but have always felt she has the children best interests at heart. Now I am not so sure.