hi everyone
have posted before about my ds1 and got some great advice from you all.
I feel that he shows a lot of signs of having aspergers. we have seen GP and school and having trouble moving forward
school say there is no problem. they say he is fine there. they dismiss a lot of my worries by saying "lots of children do that"
what i'm wondering about is the fact that he is ok at school. is it possible for a child with aspergers or something similar to be able to get through school with no outward issues? but to be awful at home?
my only explanation for this is that when people he doesn't know so well ask him to do stuff he does tend to just do it- unquestioningly. he will do things that actually would normally quite upset him- i am not sure why
for example, he said to me not long ago "i didn't used to like nursery did i?" when i asked why not he said "i didn't really like their dinners"
now, he did used to eat all sorts of stuff there that he didn't like eating at home. and he used to clear his plate. every day.
it's kind of like he knows certain things are expected of him and he is too scared not to comply.
so, with school right now i think it's a combination of liking the routine and structure. and this kind of habit of putting up with things even if you don't like them that he has developed.
he has always been the kind to withdraw and go very quiet if someone he didn't know too well told him off or anything
sorry, this is really rambling isn't it? i guess what i am asking is whether his good behaviour at school automatically rules out things like aspergers. they seem to think that if he had asd then he wouldn't be able to help himself and would behave the same at school as he does at home...
any thoughts?