No eye-contact, speech delay, lining things up, restricted imagination not pointing or sharing

[MistsAndMellow]

Sleeplessness, food phobias, behavioural problems arising from sensory-overload which seriously affect mobility and access to education.

According to the Ed Psych, these are issues arising from the mother's lifestyle because she is single and lives in a flat

I can't say any more.

But I am fuming about it

When I think how patronising some people have been to me it makes me feel sick to hear about a professional obviously trying to put one over on the parent of a child with difficulties who has limited education and no family support at all. And who is isolated and poor.

Disgraceful.

Bloody ed psych should be struck off.

Honestly it is so frustrating. I have been involved in an early intervention project funded by the council. It's actually very good- 15 hours of 1:1 support available including support for the family. Very good feedback.

They biggest problem they have is finding the children. They exist but the people who should be referring them to the project (all free), don't. Because they come out with crap like the above.

It makes me too.

The person I was speaking to agrees, saintly. If I can steal Starlight's line, "what are these over-paid people for?" She more or less said the same thing.

I'd bet my bones this child is as autistic as my DS with ADHD too. DS gets HRC plus extra tax credits. That help alone would make the world of difference to this little family.

So no financial help or early intervention or even extra-funding for him because of these bullies

tell her to take him to GP and be seen by the child development centre. They know what they are doing, I swear ed psych = idiot with a degree in something and a big car! idiot

lisa the person I am in contact with is encouraging her. Her son was identified as needing additional help back in November when my DS was because of how he behaved in the setting.

I feel very sad that he has a dx, DLA, access to all sorts of help and support from the LEA, funding for extra help yet the setting is struggling because this child's mother has been fobbed off by the Ed Psych amongst others.

The other parents don't speak to her because they have worked out that her DS is different. She only ever speaks to me because we both pick our children up early. I so wish I could drive. I'd take us the ten miles to the SN centre where she could see lots of children just like our DS' and talk to other parents all in the same boat.

It did me the world of good.

Oh, thinking out loud, JollyPirate is a HV in my area. I wonder if she could help? What do you think?

def, get HV help. Do you have special needs health visitors in your area? I would sit her down and explain that all that you have said on here.
I know the system well from my work and from DD1 but i always feel sorry for parents who dont know the system or dont know they have to shout :(

That's the thing, I know JP posts but haven't seen her for a while. She knows how good this centre is first-hand. I have a special HV but this poor lady is all alone. I could cry.

I might do a FAO if you don't mind but haven't seen her around for a while...

mists That EP should be struck off, how dare she say that to anyone, such an antiquated point of view.

I think she's my DD2's ed psych. Fortunately I'd already spoken to the GP and CAMHS before she got involved and as this is my second time around I much less nice when professionals try to fob me off. If I'd come across her first time round I would have ended up with no support. People like her are liabilities and can do untold damage but they don't ever seem to be called to account.

what a load of nonsense, the poor woman. My mum was single and we lived in a flat and I had no such issues.

She sounds as if she qualified a long time ago. Probably hasn't done any CPD either, and she was obviously taught some very old theories, and has never questioned them.

That she is working in the LA (?) education services is but then there is a huge shortage of Ed psychs so maybe its not shocking.

I really hope you can get this boy's Mum to seek further. But she may be still in a denial stage, lots of parents do try their best to deny their is anything like Autism wrong with their child, until they reach that breaking point.

I have known cases where I an outsider (without spectrum kids) have strongly suspected, and find it hard to believe that professionals involved haven't at least hinted that further investigation is needed. However the parents denied it for a couple of years longer.

Good luck.

Sounds a bit like the CPN I saw with DS when he was 4 his first words where we've met before[he was my councillor from years ago for sexual abuse]
He told us that all he needed was full one to one attention we had a 3 year old and a 7 year old. He seemed to blame me as he was my only boy.