Someone tell me how do you stop feeling

[TheLadyEvenstar]

Embarrassed about your childs behaviour when in public?

I was having my nails done earlier, had DS1 and DS2 with me. DS2 was quite happy watching what they were doing until DS1 started making loud noises and running around then DS2 joined in.

I was so damned embarrassed, everyone was looking at me and the more i asked DS1 to sit down the worse he got.
I wouldn't have been so worried if he had not been running out towards a road......

,guess it is my fault for being selfish and thinking of me for once.

Sumum I have my own nails which grow nice and long hehe

I took toys for DS2 and DS1 was originally playing games on my phone and his.

I feel guilty because DS1 is not biologically his and I feel I am putting upon DP by leaving him to cope with the fallout.

Although DP actually has more time for him than DS2..who is biologically his.

oh I dunno I just feel so down today

Well you obviously did your best, so just put it behind you and stop feeling guilty and embarrassed.

If the people in the shop are still thinking about your dcs behavour then they are very sad.
More likely they have forgotton so you should too. Sounds like you have enough rubbish to deal with without adding guilt to it.

sending you hugs

Theladyevenstar, he wouldnt offer, if he couldnt cope.

Perhaps get your nails done and all the things that require too much sitting still or behaving appropriately while ds1 is at school?

If i took ds to get my nails done, he wouldnt be able to sit still for 5 minutes, he would be pacing up and down, hand flapping and vocal tic. If anyone spoke to him he would totally ignore them. If that makes you feel any better.

I feel your pain. I definitely understand the embarassed/angry feeling. I had an extreme case of that yesterday. I too did some "selfish shopping" at Next and my DD was just running around constantly and everytime I asked her to come here she would just scream NO!!!! and run off so i couldn't see her, which makes your heart jump to say the least. The most frustrating thing about this is that her dad was there and the situation still went tits up.

He took her to the car and told me to carry on, but I couldn't. Again, I felt guilty about trying to buy myself a top. A FRIGGIN TOP!!! Why do we do it to ourselves. We shouldn't feel guilty, but we do.

Sorry for not replying..I am here again lol.

Well he didn't stop his behaviour on Saturday when we went out but did on Sunday when he went out with DP....until he came home.

I wish I could understand why when he is 1-1 with DP fishing he can behave but comes home and goes off the rails again.

I wouldn't DREAM of taking kids with me when getting my nails done, NT or not. I think most children would play up under those circs.

I should think fishing is quiet, simple, relaxing, outdoors which is very calming, allows him to move and vocalise if he wants without being told no, or bumping into anyone, and he surroundings mean little over-stimulation. A nail parlour or busy home are very different surroundings.