Please give some advice

[mumofautistickid]

Hi,
I am new to this forum. My daughter has been diagnosed ASD at 2.5.now she is 4. She went to nursery (full time) until September?10. She is going to full time school now.
She is in reception.
Picking her up from school and dropping her at school are big tasks for me because she runs off on road. she cannot able to wait in front of her class door. Sometimes she wants to get into other classes. Even if i tell her its not your class she is not understanding and throwing tantrums. if i don?t let her do what she wants to do then she is throws herself on floor and hitting me .it is so embarrassing in front of other parents. I don?t know how to stop her doing all these.
school said she is going to get 1:1 support.
two people are looking after her in school.they are also responsible for other kids as well.i mean they have 4 other children under them.
Yesterday I attended parents meeting ,
her class teacher saying that she isnot sitting on carpet for carpettime and she isnot joining in small group activities.
Can anybody give some suggestions to me?
I am thinking to try ABA for her. What does ABA tutor do? We live in London,UK. Where can we find information about them? How much do they cost? She is verbal child. Sometimes she throws very bad tantrums .she has echolalia. How helpful would it be for my child?

Thanks

Wow.

A lot going on there.

First up - is there a statement in place? If not, get one. She needs 1-1, not 1-2 or 2-1. She needs 25 hours to cover everyday all day.

She will eventually get used to lining up. Her TA needs to come and help you first thing. I understand the embarassment factor but you will develop a thicker skin (though there's still days I walk home after the school run crying) Maybe a wrist strap initially - though you may feel it demeaning for her.

Maybe take photos of where she should stand or be and talk about them at home and then put them in order of sequence of what happens i.e lining u, hanging stuff on peg, sitting on the carpet....

Someone far more knowledgeable than me will be along soon to tell you about ABA.

You need to make an appointment for a meeting at school. She needs more support and she needs it ASAP.

Stay strong.

agree with photos in order of what happens on a school day. Also look into weighted lap blankets, my friends use them for their girls to help them sit for periods of time.

in addition to the above I suggest a circle of her favourite colour on the floor when they are doing floortime and get her one of the fidgeting toys to squeeze or play with (you need to find which one hold her attention longer).

Initially she may need physical support ie TA to sit with her so she gets used to sitting and extend this gradually, staring with few mins.

Does she not hold your hand? Very very crucial skill to teach..If she wants to run to other classrooms pick her up, if she throws a tantrum again hold her if you can and about the parents...dont worry, there are worse NT children than SN.

Cant say much on ABA bu there are some really helping threads here from last week, do a search on ABA and contact posters directly if you have additional questions and you dont want to post here.

Good luck

I agree, better to hold her now while you can than when shes a jr and impossible to hold.
Could they do a step by step instruction on the class door too? DD1 used to need to know who was teaching (they did job share) and having it written on the door was all she needed but we put up with weeks of terrible behaviour because we got to this though.