excuse me while I have a woe it is me moment, before I move on.

[2shoes]

just read a thread about weddings and how hard it is with dc's.......
Made me as when I went to a wedding recently I was doing the same as these people with small children and dd is 15.
some days I realise how different my life is to the norm.

thanks.

feel free to add your own woe it is me post if it helps

Hi 2shoes I'm having one of those days too....

I got my daughter to school by myself on time and with no help this morning. I was so pleased with myself until I reasiled this is normal for every other parent in the school and such a big deal for me :(

I'm blind, dd is just 4 is partially sighted, possibly has ASD (if you believe her docs) she isn't good at walking far and it's a reasonable walk to school. It took us 45 mins to do a 10 minute walk but we did it. I hope she isn't too tired this morning at school.

Still, at least the realisation that we do struggle so much has kicked me into asking for help with the DLA form that I'm scared of. Maybe if we got DLA I would be able to arrange a taxi for the days when no-one can help me.

wish me luck for 3:15......

I was watching Help! My House is Falling Down! or wahtever it's called, last night. They had children who were just puttering about around all the chaos and "helping", even the little one who was throwing rubble from an old fireplace into a bucket.

We desperately need to get some far less invasive work done to fix a damp problem and replace the kitchen and getting it done, while keeping the kids out of the way is going to be a logistical nightmare, since they'll be into everything, in danger of running out of the unlocked external doors and generally, not at all safe.

I just want to be able to plan for the next few weeks but everything hangs on appointments :(

riv I nearly messaged you about the trolley one earlier.
think I need to go of and read a book

I fet very woeful yesterday after taking to a parent at school pickup. She has a cousin who is 21 and has ASD. According to my friend, he is unemployabe, still lives with his parents and spends his days getting drunk. Made me feel scared for DS2s future

5inthebed 8but* who knows , he might have been like that if he hadn't had ASD.

5inthebed - not all is doom and gloom. Me and DH have a good friend - who is living in our annexe at the mo. Defo ASD, although they didn't dx that much in those days. He is a DR! Although he could never work with people, he does the science stuff. He wrote on an application form for a job once that he was not a good in a team as he didn't like or get on with most people - and yes, he really wanted the job! But he has a reasonable job, although research and science is not brilliantly paid. Keep hope please.

I always get a bit down when people talk about the nappy years and can't wait for them to be over

I had a woe is me moment just the other day. Had a cup of tea, a moan on here, felt better getting it off my chest with the lovely mn's on here who understand, then kicked myself up the arse and got on with it, as you do

Oops sorry the point of my post was that its perfectly understandable to have these moments and move on, not that you should kick yourself up the arse!

I get these all the time from little things -like in a work meeting yesterday making small talk with the guy next to me who told me how his DS2 was a late walker (16 months) but how lovely it is now to watch him toddling around with his older brother - I know I should have a thick skin for hearing about NT toddlers but it just gets me like a punch in the stomach every time.

DH says it is "not normal" for me to get upset about things like this and I should get over it.

I am probably not normal either then! We went to centre parcs for day and I was really struck and a bit upset to see people having a lovely time without any effort, whereas my ds1 was stressed / anxious at the walk from the car to the swim pool and then stressed again in the changing room and then stayed in one small area of the pool the whole time.

Feeling very woeful today. DD starting school has been very hard - tough for me to let her go and to trust other people will be able to meet her needs.

Also when you add in an extra stressful issue on top of dd's sn stuff it's so hard to stay on top of things. I don't have much spare energy to deal with other big stuff and this week has been unbearably hard but not really coz of dd.

Now got a chest infection after a bad cold wouldn't shift and feel like shit physically as well as emotionally. Had to phone in sick to work today. Need to sort a few things and then life will feel bit clearer.. I hope.

DD though has been an absolute star and giving me really big hugs! As though she knows I'm struggling, bless her.

Right - moan over.. make a cuppa and make a to-do list I think!

Woe is me....

Waiting for dx report to arrive.

DD had shoes on wrong feet when I picked her up from school...no PE so Why?? Why Didnt TA change them round?.....Just the bottom of my woe mountain at school...other thread!

Also have chest infection, tablets run out tomorrow and its no better. :(

...the biggie is that DH has had enough of doing 70 hours a week so walked out of his job today!....is going in for 'a chat' in the morning. I dont work, we have no savings.

....Right back to the job hunting/filling in forms/contacting support people...and making a cuppa! :)

Feeling woeful too. Got the migraine thing going on and extremely tight chest Also feeling sad as I am teaching year 1 this year. They are the same age as my ds. I get to see on a daily basis all the things he cannot do. Twists like a knife.

I know it shouldn't but it does.

DS not sleeping well either, me and DH are dog tired.

Statement review tomorrow and I need to kick some ass in that. I need some strength to fight them and not get silly and emotional.

I feel very stupid and OTT but I got depressed when I saw all the other kids in the nursery had little practice sheets and were practising writing their own names, and only DS didn't (and he has a short name too!) because he can't really hold a pen properly.
I feel like I should apologize to you all for being such a wimp sometimes...

I think it gets us all in subtle ways each and every day.

No, you're not a wimp.

There's days I feel I could fight each and every battle for my ds and others when I just want to crawl under my duvet and grizzle.

I feel woeful too at the moment, just not knowing what the future holds for ds, for every battle with the medical profession, for differences, and opportunities lost before they were even really there....

Thats 2shoes and Auntevil. My friend just painted a very dim future.