Last night I dreamed that dd2 had died

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They let me bring her back home (I think we'd been in hospital) and I didn't know what to do for the funeral.

I was quite shocked when I realised it was a dream. Its quite disturbing. Atm she is very healthy, but winter is always the worrying time for children like her.

Is this normal?

Yes, it's the manifestation of an obvious fear you have. Where I come from, they say that if you dream that someone dies they are actually going to live healthily for long .

That's good then!

:)

btw, can you bring your child home?

I'm sorry to say this but i'm glad it's not just me who does this. Also having the winter worries too!!
Take care x

I hate dreams like this.. Upsets me all day afterwards.

< sends a big cuppa>

It's not just me!!

We don't have health worries but I have had many anxiety dreams over the years, mostly I can't find DS and I'm looking everywhere for him. Its awful, waking up with real tears in your eyes.

I know this may sound a little odd, but I do worry about DS who has complex medical issues.

I have actually sort of planned his funeral. i hope I never have to really do it but I know what verses I'd have, what music, have even checked out kiddie coffins.

Having done that I worry about it much less now because I know that if the worst ever happens I can spend those precious hours with him, not worrying about how I will sort his funeral.

Winter is a worrying time, keeping everything crossed it's a healthy one in your house.
xx

oh, mmb, that must have been an awful dream.

I think it is perfectly normal - as others have said, it is the manifestation of your deep fears.

wrt the question of bringing her home, I don't know the answer to that. I cared for my mum when she was ill, and she died at home with me, but she chose to come home form the hospice, iyswim? even then, though, I didn't know who to call/what to do when she actually passed away.

here's to a healthy and safe winter for everyone

oh what an awful dream, about bringing them home, i believe you can to some degree as im catholic and im sure catholics often have the body in the house prior to the funeral, might be wrong though but i know my family always have chosen to have it in church for some time prior to funeral - not open coffin though thankfully, so im sure its allowed in some way but i dont know maybe im all wrong im just sure ive heard it somewhere, maybe im wrong!?

I brought my son home the night before his funeral (was a very late miscarriage not quite a stillbirth :( ), the funeral directors said it wasn't uncommon. There's a leaflet they give you about how to care for the body (reading that was horrible/surreal) but we needed to have him at home just once.

sorry about the dream :(

Your dream is just your deepest fear which you succussfully suppress through the days but comes out in dreams sometimes. It means nothing except this is what you fear and as such absolutely not a premonition. It is very common so dont worry [hug]

Oh mmb that must have been horrible.

I had a dream I'd like to ask about but the subject matter is worrying me a bit and I don't want to post and upset loads of people.

I hope you all have a healthy winter too.

I too wish you all a very healthy and happy winter!

My mum is always telling me that in Portugal people believe dreams about death add to that person's life so i'm with sc13 on this one!

I had a very similar dream a few months ago and I would say it's normal to dream about our worst fears as they may be too unbearable to think about when we are awake but they are there nevertheless.

In my dream I was just carrying on as if nothing had happened and felt so guilty and upset for ages after. It's very unsettling to dream such stuff but it's probably good to acknowledge that darker stuff from time to time.. even if it's done in dreams.. and to not completely suppress it.

Winter worries always plague me too as dd gets poorly a lot in winter.. I'm dreading it.

I'm full of a really bad cold and am praying she doesn't get it coz they always lead to chest infections.. Still - fingers crossed..

Thank you all for your responses.

Maybe it is a suppressed fear - she is healthy atm apart from niggly things.

I remember as a child people being brought to their house in the days before the funeral - scottish presbyterian.

Phlebas - did that help?

Riven - we too have the same option. I'm not sure whether I'd go there or here.

LollipopViolet - I hope you find the answers you are looking for.

Thank you everyone. I feel this is a safe place to talk about these things - friends in RL would think I was being morbid.

A doctor who works in neo-natal intensive care told me that it is normal for families to be offered the option of taking their child home, and that many do want this. I thought at the time, and still do think, that that's a really humane and understanding thing to offer.